"My honest reaction when I first saw those words was a hard no. At that time in my life, I rarely felt like I was enough, or that the moment I was in was enough. Like many people, I was focused on what needed to change (in me, others, or the world) before I could finally relax or feel at peace."
"Over the years, as I continued along the path of mindfulness and meditation, that question began to land differently. I started to realize that whether I judged myself or the moment to be insufficient, the facts of reality didn't change. What changed was my state of mind. I could certainly time travel through worry or memory, but the physical facts of the moment remained the same."
"The mind is a wanting machine. It's designed to look for the next thing to fix, get, or get rid of. And even when one desire is fulfilled, the mind rarely settles for long. It simply moves on to the next condition: I'll be happy when I look different. I'll be happy when I get that job. I'll be happy when I find a partner or have a different partner. I'll be happy when I have more money. I'll be happy when that person changes."
Wanting things is natural, but attaching well-being to getting them creates ongoing dissatisfaction. Persistent desire keeps attention away from present-moment facts and fuels time travel into worry and memory. Judging the moment as insufficient does not change external reality; it changes internal state and increases suffering. Mindfulness reveals that peace arises not from fixing circumstances but from allowing the moment as it is. Observing wanting without clinging reduces the habit of perpetual striving. Practicing acceptance and meeting reality with openness diminishes emotional reactivity and cultivates a steadier sense of enough.
Read at Psychology Today
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