"I was sitting in the conference room at work with the CEO and my abusive male boss. The same boss who had been love-bombing and manipulating me since I started nine months earlier, slowly pushing my nervous system into a constant state of fight-or-flight. When I was four months into the job, this boss went on a three-day bender during an overnight work conference at a fancy hotel in Boston."
"When I texted him to ask where he was, he replied, "I f**king hate you." When my CEO found out and called me five minutes after I got home, I told him I trusted him to handle it however he saw fit. I really believed he would. But over the next five months, the abuse didn't stop. I just didn't know it was abuse yet."
"He told me everything I wanted to hear. I had spent the prior fifteen years in corporate America, wondering where I belonged. Wondering where my work family was. At first, I felt like I had finally found it. Then the attention escalated. What started as friendly check-ins became constant interruptions. The group Teams chats turned into direct messages. The work texts turned into personal texts-at night and on the weekends."
An employee experienced escalating abuse from an obsessive boss who initially love-bombed and manipulated, pushing the employee's nervous system into a constant fight-or-flight state. The boss went on a three-day bender at a work conference, then sent a hostile message to the employee. Leadership was informed but did not resolve the situation as expected. Over five months the behavior continued and intensified, with flattering promises and fast-tracking claims shifting into persistent, boundary-crossing attention: constant check-ins, direct messages, and personal texts at night and on weekends, along with preferential gestures that singled the employee out.
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