Forgiveness serves personal well-being by removing heavy negative emotions that impede healing and sleep. Unforgiveness links to anxiety, heart disease, diabetes, and depression, making forgiveness a health-promoting choice. Forgiveness does not require an apology and can be practiced after being wronged by strangers, the deceased, or those who ghosted. Letting go of anger and hurt prevents being trapped in a dark, saddled state and allows emotional recovery. Understanding others' motives and mistakes can ease the process. Forgiving does not equal forgetting, but it enables moving on and reclaiming peace.
Nobody is perfect. It could have been unintentional, but you were the target of their low moment and got wronged in the process. You are feeling the range of lousy emotions: anger, sadness, shame, anxiety, embarrassment, regret, and might even start to slip into a depression. When someone suggests you forgive the instigator, you can't help but reply: "Why should I forgive him/her/them?" "He/She/They don't deserve my forgiveness" "I'll never be able to forgive him/her/them for that" "Why should he/she/they get away with that?"
Overall, the ability to forgive was related to better physical and mental health, and lack of forgiveness contributed towards issues such as anxiety, heart disease, diabetes, and depression. It is entirely for you, since you deserve to live peacefully and sleep well at night. Practice forgiveness without an apology. Your instigator might not apologize. Alternatively, you could have been ghosted, or had an incident with a stranger or with someone who is now deceased, so that "I'm sorry" will never come. Forgive them anyway.
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