"Somewhere along the way, in your family, love got conflated with money. And it sounds like your mother is using that conflation as a way of controlling or, at least, affecting the relationship you have with each other. While you can't change the value of a dollar, these particular dollars hold so much more value to you because they're representative of your mother's regard for you and, by extension, your sense of worth."
"It'll be useful to explore with a therapist or a trusted friend what happens when you start leaning into the idea that you have enough. Ideally, it will lead to the idea that you are enough, which is true with or without money. It's unclear if going no-contact will solve your larger issue. And forgiveness may be too complex right now, espe"
A 63-year-old daughter reports lifelong parental financial favoritism toward her brothers and recurring hurts as her 90-year-old mother plans to leave $500,000 to a niece. The daughter visits yearly, speaks regularly, feels marginalized, and considers going no-contact while battling tears and feelings of being unloved. The responder identifies a conflation of love and money and recommends exploring therapy or trusted support to internalize having enough and believing she is enough. The responder cautions that cutting contact may not resolve the underlying issue and that forgiveness may be complex and premature.
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