The article emphasizes that trauma history should not be used as an excuse for abusive behavior. It discusses the cycle of rationalizing abuse that survivors often experience, reflecting childhood conditioning where they learned to excuse harmful actions of caregivers. This behavior continues into adulthood, making it challenging for survivors to identify and confront abuse in their relationships. The article advocates for recognizing wrongs while holding compassion for trauma and calls for systemic changes to better support survivors and improve their overall quality of life.
Having a trauma history does not excuse bad or even abusive behavior towards others.
Survivors raised in violent homes often normalize chaos and abuse, making excuses to deny or intellectualize their experiences.
The script of excusing and self-blame that we adopt in childhood doesn't disappear; it replays in adult relationships.
Systemic changes could help improve support and quality of life for all survivors of abuse.
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