Meet the Sad Wives of AI

"If i had to listen to another minute of my husband talking about Claude Code, I might have actually died. It was 11 pm in Berkeley, California, where I was home alone with our 10-month-old daughter, and 2 am in Cambridge, Massachusetts, where he was visiting for his newish job in AI. "JUST LOOK AT THIS!" he shouted. The FaceTime camera zoomed toward a laptop sitting on a hotel bed. "SEE?!""

"There's a strange and under-discussed side effect of the AI boom: what it's doing to family dynamics. By which I mean: how it's potentially destroying family dynamics. I'm sure this applies to all kinds of families, gay or straight, rich or poor, with any AI-pilled members. The technology is coming, has come, for us all. But for the purposes of this story, I mostly spoke to white-collar heteros in the Bay Area, because that's where a certain psychological crisis seems most acute."

"Often it goes like this: He works in AI, and she does everything and anything else. Other times, it's bleaker: He desperately wants to work in AI-or feels he must work in AI-and she wants him to do literally anything else. Either way, the men go in and the women want out. How many? It depends on how you define "working in AI.""

"About 71 percent of "AI-skilled workers," according to one report, are men, and there are roughly 35,000 open AI roles in the US at any given moment. Broaden that to include investors and you're adding thousands more. Broaden it further to i"

A late-night call shows a husband fixated on AI code while his partner is home alone with a 10-month-old and trying to handle basic responsibilities. The situation creates a household where attention is split between a human baby and an AI “baby,” both demanding constant focus and keeping people up at night. The piece frames this as an under-discussed side effect of the AI boom: technology can strain family dynamics, especially when one partner works in AI and the other carries most non-AI responsibilities. It notes that AI-skilled roles are disproportionately held by men and that many AI positions remain open, contributing to pressure and imbalance within relationships.

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