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13 hours agoWhy You Can't Rush Healing
Pacing is essential in therapy, balancing speed to avoid client dysregulation or disengagement.
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Relationships
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1 day agoPsychology says the people who find it hardest to be taken care of when they're sick aren't independent, they're carrying a very old belief that needing someone was the fastest way to be left - Silicon Canals
Needing care from loved ones during illness can evoke feelings of vulnerability and discomfort, often rooted in deeper fears of abandonment.
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1 day agoHow Mistakes Springboard Conscientious People's Growth
Many mistakes move us forward more than backward. Conscientious people often experience a springboard effect following mistakes, whereby fixing the mistakes accelerates growth faster than if they'd never made any missteps.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours agoThe hardest thing about healing isn't the work itself. It's the quiet grief of realizing how many years you spent believing the problem was you, when the actual problem was an environment that needed you to believe that in order to keep functioning - Silicon Canals
Family systems may require a child to remain unwell for their own functionality, leading to grief and loss when the child realizes their true self.
Psychology
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35 minutes agoPsychology says deep thinkers don't realize the reason they feel disconnected from their own life isn't depression - it's that observation became a shelter they forgot how to leave - Silicon Canals
Chronic detachment often misdiagnosed as depression or stress may stem from a learned behavior of observing rather than experiencing life.
Humor
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5 days agoPeople who laugh before they finish telling a painful story aren't handling it well. They're releasing the listener from having to respond to it seriously, which is a skill they learned from people who couldn't. - Silicon Canals
Laughter during painful stories often serves as a social cue to ease discomfort rather than indicating healing.
Psychology
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1 day agoPsychology says a woman has a beautiful soul if she has taken real pain and turned it into gentleness rather than armor - because the default response to being hurt is becoming harder, and the woman who went through the same things and came out softer instead has done something rare and almost impossible to teach - Silicon Canals
Pain can lead to gentleness, with some individuals choosing softness over hardness despite their hardships.
Relationships
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4 days agoI'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals
Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
Psychology
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14 hours agoThe hardest part of being called too sensitive as a child isn't the label itself. It's the decades you spend afterward trying to feel less, without realizing you were slowly subtracting yourself from your own life - Silicon Canals
The term 'sensitive' can carry a damaging tone that leads to long-term emotional adjustments and a life shaped by others' expectations.
Psychology
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11 hours agoSome people don't stay quiet in arguments because they're calm, they stay quiet because they ran the math years ago and concluded that saying the thing costs more than swallowing it, and they've been paying the cheaper price so long they forgot it was a choice - Silicon Canals
Silence in arguments often results from an automatic cost-benefit analysis rather than emotional mastery or composure.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoSome people who appear completely unbothered by criticism haven't stopped caring what others think. They've just moved the audience inside, and now they answer to a version of themselves that never gives them a day off - Silicon Canals
Internalized criticism often masquerades as resilience, leading to preemptive self-critique before external feedback is received.
Psychology
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1 day agoPsychology says a truly successful life isn't measured by what you've accumulated, it's measured by whether the people closest to you feel more like themselves or less like themselves after spending time with you - Silicon Canals
Success should be measured by the quality of relationships and personal fulfillment rather than external achievements.
fromPsychology Today
3 days agoWhen Anger Waits: The Turtle Technique Beyond Childhood
The turtle technique is often introduced to children to help them manage strong emotions, guiding them to pause, breathe, and step back before reacting. It sounds simple, yet it carries depth when practiced with intention.
Mindfulness
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoNot everyone who says they're fine is lying. Some people genuinely cannot locate the word for what they're feeling because nobody ever sat with them long enough to help them name it, and fine became the only vocabulary they trust - Silicon Canals
Many people struggle to articulate their emotions, often responding with 'fine' due to a condition called alexithymia, which affects emotional vocabulary.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology explains people who forgive easily aren't weak or naive - they've simply done the math on what resentment actually costs the person carrying it and decided the debt isn't worth collecting, because forgiveness isn't about the other person deserving peace, it's about refusing to let someone who already hurt you once continue to take up space in a body they no longer have any right to occupy - Silicon Canals
Forgiveness is essential for personal well-being and mental health, freeing individuals from the burden of resentment.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who genuinely know their worth don't announce it or defend it, they operate with a quiet certainty that makes negotiation, justification, and proving themselves feel like a foreign language - Silicon Canals
Genuine confidence stems from self-awareness, not the need to broadcast one's worth or achievements.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNot everyone who smiles through criticism is secure. Some people learned very early that visible hurt made the criticism worse, and the smile is the face their nervous system wears when it's bracing for the next hit - Silicon Canals
A smile in response to criticism often masks internal pain and is a learned strategy from childhood experiences of trauma or stress.
#therapy
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks agoWhen Therapy Treats You as the Problem to Fix
Distress can stem from internal issues, external context, or both, and recognizing this is crucial for effective therapy.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoPsychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.
Psychology
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4 days agoThere's a specific kind of adult who apologizes for crying even when they're alone, and it isn't sensitivity, it's the residue of a childhood where emotion was something you were expected to clean up before anyone saw the mess - Silicon Canals
Adults who were invalidated in childhood often apologize for their emotions, reflecting deep-seated patterns of emotional suppression.
Psychology
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5 days agoThe people who seem to have endless patience with difficult family members aren't necessarily more forgiving. Many of them long ago concluded that the emotional cost of asking for change was higher than the cost of absorbing the behavior, and they've been paying the cheaper price for so long they forgot there was ever a choice. - Silicon Canals
Conflict avoidance is often mistaken for patience, but it can lead to relationship breakdown and is linked to anxiety and attachment insecurity.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoYou Want a Clinician Who Treats You as Person
Evidence Based Medicine was formalized in the 1990s, largely by Canadian physician David Sackett. Sackett described the goal of EBM is to replace hunches and habits with data and clinical trials. Clinical guidelines were developed involving protocols that tell doctors which drug to prescribe first, what dose to use, when to escalate treatment, and when to refer a patient to a specialist.
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