I told them I would see them, for sure, but on a different day, and that family fights weren't fair to my husband. I know they were disappointed, but also relieved. This ended up being the solution to never-ending heartache for me. After that, I slowly began to excuse myself early when he arrived at the same time I did for a visit. Soon, "Look at the time!" became my go-to when I spotted him coming from the window.
When your days are filled with nothing but the media's onslaught of messages, images, and must-see posts, it can feel good to take a breather. Maybe you've recently figured out a way to carve some "me-time" in this constant search for your attention from all of these online sources. You close your eyes, think about a recent pleasant encounter with a friend, and for one precious moment are transported away from reality.
Co-regulation requires three skill sets: the ability to identify when your partner is emotionally dysregulated, the ability to tell your partner when you are dysregulated, and the ability to react to your partner in a way that is calming.
Inspectors were particularly impressed by the school's focus on emotional wellbeing, where each class elects a kindness champion trained to help resolve disagreements and support classmates feeling angry or upset.
It's not just about missing out on sex. It's about feeling as though your wellbeing doesn't matter very much. Being told you can't have something valuable leads to feelings of guilt or shame.