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#emotional-labor
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours ago

The hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals

The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals

Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 hours ago

The hardest thing about being the calm one in a family is that your steadiness becomes load-bearing. Everyone leans on it, nobody asks what holds it up, and the day you finally crack, people don't comfort you. They panic. Because your collapse threatens the architecture, and the architecture was always more important than you were. - Silicon Canals

The calm family member often bears the burden of emotional labor, managing others' feelings while suppressing their own.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals

Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
more#emotional-labor
#parenting
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour ago

Research suggests the 1960s and 70s produced adults who could self-soothe, entertain themselves, and tolerate boredom - not because their parents were wise but because their parents were simply elsewhere - Silicon Canals

Modern parenting emphasizes structured activities, contrasting sharply with past generations' unstructured play, which may have fostered resilience and independence in children.
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago
Parenting

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Your Adult Child Says 'I Hate You' and Then Wants Money

Emotional outbursts from adult children often stem from overload, and parents should change their responses to reset dynamics.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I recently told my son that I was proud of him for the first time in his adult life, and the look on his face told me everything about the cost of assuming that providing for someone communicates the same thing as telling them they matter - Silicon Canals

Verbal expressions of pride are crucial for emotional connection between parents and children.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
4 days ago

My Daughter Has Been Framed for Something She Didn't Do. My Husband Thinks She Should Just Accept the Punishment.

Middle schoolers should be involved in decisions about their conflicts and how to address misunderstandings with peers and school authorities.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

Our Daughter Walked in on the Moment That Ended My Marriage. She Isn't the Same.

Encouraging reconciliation between Sadie and her mother may be beneficial for Sadie's long-term emotional health despite current resentment.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 hour ago

Research suggests the 1960s and 70s produced adults who could self-soothe, entertain themselves, and tolerate boredom - not because their parents were wise but because their parents were simply elsewhere - Silicon Canals

Modern parenting emphasizes structured activities, contrasting sharply with past generations' unstructured play, which may have fostered resilience and independence in children.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

My Wife's Sister Dropped Her 1-Year-Old Twins With Us Due to a Family Emergency. When She Texted Us an Update, I Was Floored.

Renata's manipulative behavior has destroyed trust, justifying a refusal to provide future childcare.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When Your Adult Child Says 'I Hate You' and Then Wants Money

Emotional outbursts from adult children often stem from overload, and parents should change their responses to reset dynamics.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 66 and I recently told my son that I was proud of him for the first time in his adult life, and the look on his face told me everything about the cost of assuming that providing for someone communicates the same thing as telling them they matter - Silicon Canals

Verbal expressions of pride are crucial for emotional connection between parents and children.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
4 days ago

My Daughter Has Been Framed for Something She Didn't Do. My Husband Thinks She Should Just Accept the Punishment.

Middle schoolers should be involved in decisions about their conflicts and how to address misunderstandings with peers and school authorities.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

Our Daughter Walked in on the Moment That Ended My Marriage. She Isn't the Same.

Encouraging reconciliation between Sadie and her mother may be beneficial for Sadie's long-term emotional health despite current resentment.
more#parenting
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
6 hours ago

I Have the Holy Trinity of Sex Problems. I Know What Would Solve Them, but I'm Too Scared to Try.

Exploring sexual orientation can involve complex feelings and societal pressures, especially regarding bisexuality and the fear of judgment.
#motherhood
Women
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 day ago

I left my career to be a stay-at-home mom. I didn't expect to lose my identity.

A career change to stay home with children can lead to unexpected emotional and financial challenges.
Women
fromwww.businessinsider.com
1 day ago

I left my career to be a stay-at-home mom. I didn't expect to lose my identity.

A career change to stay home with children can lead to unexpected emotional and financial challenges.
more#motherhood
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
16 hours ago

There's a specific kind of grief that belongs to people who outgrew their hometown but never fully arrived anywhere else. They're not homesick for the place. They're homesick for the version of themselves that didn't yet know the place was too small. - Silicon Canals

Returning to one's hometown reveals a paradox of searching for a lost self rather than a changed place.
Cancer
fromwww.aljazeera.com
15 hours ago

Nothing prepares you': The invisible lives of carers in the UK

A daughter becomes her mother's sole carer after a cancer diagnosis, navigating the challenges of caregiving alone.
Social justice
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Helping Black Women Remove the Mask

Black women navigate stereotypes and require therapy to reclaim their authenticity while clinicians must advocate against oppressive systems.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and the most important relationship of my adult life has been with solitude - not as a consolation for the company I didn't have, but as the place where I have always been most honest, most creative, and most recognizably myself, and I spent too many years being embarrassed about that before I understood it was simply how I was built - Silicon Canals

Solitude allows for self-discovery and personal reflection, free from societal expectations and external pressures.
#tradwife
Women in technology
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Study Finds Men Who Want #TradWives Also Have High Levels Of "Hostile Sexism"

The #tradwife movement is supported by men with hostile sexism, who view women negatively and expect traditional homemaking roles.
Women in technology
fromJezebel
3 days ago

Turns Out That Guys Who Want Tradwives Aren't Fans of Women

The #TradWife movement attracts men with hostile sexism, revealing a troubling dynamic of resentment towards women.
Women in technology
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Study Finds Men Who Want #TradWives Also Have High Levels Of "Hostile Sexism"

The #tradwife movement is supported by men with hostile sexism, who view women negatively and expect traditional homemaking roles.
Women in technology
fromJezebel
3 days ago

Turns Out That Guys Who Want Tradwives Aren't Fans of Women

The #TradWife movement attracts men with hostile sexism, revealing a troubling dynamic of resentment towards women.
more#tradwife
#emotional-health
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago
Retirement

Tough it out' was the only emotional instruction a whole generation of men ever received - and now they're sitting in retirement wondering why their body aches and nobody calls - Silicon Canals

fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago
Retirement

I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific kind of loneliness that only hits people who are very good at listening. Everyone trusts them with the heavy stuff, everyone seeks them out when things fall apart, and nobody ever thinks to ask them how they're doing because the role was assigned so early it became invisible. - Silicon Canals

Good listeners often carry unaddressed emotional burdens, as their role can stem from childhood experiences of absorbing others' pain.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

People who were always the strong one in the family often become the loneliest person in the room after 65. Every link must be real and accurate - Silicon Canals

Being the strong one in a family can lead to profound loneliness in later life due to a lack of emotional reciprocity.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Tough it out' was the only emotional instruction a whole generation of men ever received - and now they're sitting in retirement wondering why their body aches and nobody calls - Silicon Canals

Retirement brings a realization of emotional neglect and the need for deeper connections among men.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 66 and I spent forty years trying to stay positive through everything - and what I actually created was a life where nobody knew me well enough to notice when I was drowning - Silicon Canals

Staying positive can lead to hidden struggles and emotional isolation, as individuals often mask their true feelings to appear strong.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific kind of loneliness that only hits people who are very good at listening. Everyone trusts them with the heavy stuff, everyone seeks them out when things fall apart, and nobody ever thinks to ask them how they're doing because the role was assigned so early it became invisible. - Silicon Canals

Good listeners often carry unaddressed emotional burdens, as their role can stem from childhood experiences of absorbing others' pain.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

People who were always the strong one in the family often become the loneliest person in the room after 65. Every link must be real and accurate - Silicon Canals

Being the strong one in a family can lead to profound loneliness in later life due to a lack of emotional reciprocity.
more#emotional-health
#grief
fromIndependent
2 days ago
Fundraising

Modern Morals: My brother hasn't paid me back for my mum's funeral and it's brought up old feelings about him

Writing
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

I Lived Through the Worst Thing That Can Happen to a Parent. To Help Me Move On, I Did Something Drastic.

Grief is a persistent presence that evolves but never fully disappears.
fromIndependent
2 days ago
Fundraising

Modern Morals: My brother hasn't paid me back for my mum's funeral and it's brought up old feelings about him

Writing
fromSlate Magazine
1 week ago

I Lived Through the Worst Thing That Can Happen to a Parent. To Help Me Move On, I Did Something Drastic.

Grief is a persistent presence that evolves but never fully disappears.
more#grief
fromFast Company
3 days ago

What to do after a life-defining mistake

The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
Books
fromApaonline
4 days ago

The Feminine as Structural Problem

The deeper I go, the more feminist I become! Yet my experience of academic philosophy has largely disclosed the opposite: a discipline that solemnly declares its devotion to openness proves curiously unsettled by me as a woman.
Philosophy
SF LGBT
fromBronx Times
4 days ago

'You saved my life': How one Bronx social worker helps transgender patients recover with dignity - Bronx Times

Asha Lyons provides vital support to transgender patients during recovery, emphasizing the importance of visibility and care in their journeys.
Science
fromNature
6 days ago

Daily briefing: Women's academic careers are knocked by parenthood much more than men's

Childcare responsibilities significantly hinder women's academic careers compared to men's, impacting job opportunities and publication rates.
LGBT
fromAdvocate.com
5 days ago

Trans people are here to stay, no matter who tries to erase us

Understanding the gender spectrum and dismantling misconceptions about trans identities is crucial for acceptance and recognition of diverse gender experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 hours ago

Psychology says the most emotionally strong people aren't the ones who never fall apart - they're the ones who fall apart privately, reassemble without fanfare, and never use their recovery as a reason for anyone else to feel guilty - Silicon Canals

Emotional strength involves acknowledging feelings and recovering privately, not denying vulnerability or pretending to be unbreakable.
fromIndependent
17 hours ago

Dear Mary: My mother's will left more to my brothers even though I was her main carer. I'm angry and upset and it's making me unwell

The will left 40% of the assets to both brothers and only 20% to me, despite my greater involvement in caregiving.
Relationships
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There is a version of grief that only people in their forties understand. It's not for someone who died. It's for the life you were quietly building in your head for twenty years that you now realize was never going to happen, and the mourning has no name because the thing you lost never existed outside your own planning. - Silicon Canals

Midlife reckoning involves mourning an imagined life that never existed, rather than regret for choices made.
#happiness
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals

Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I spent four decades chasing the version of happiness I saw in other people's living rooms - and the day I stopped, I noticed I'd been happy in my own kitchen all along - Silicon Canals

Measuring happiness against others' lives leads to perpetual dissatisfaction and obscures personal contentment.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I'm 73 and my husband asked me what makes me happy and I gave him the answer I thought he wanted to hear - our kids, our grandkids, our home - but the real answer is I genuinely don't know anymore because I've spent forty years editing my joy to fit other people's expectations - Silicon Canals

Editing joy to fit others' expectations can lead to losing sight of what truly makes one happy.
more#happiness
#retirement
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychologists explain that people who feel neglected in retirement aren't necessarily being ignored - they're experiencing the sudden absence of the role-based relationships that made them feel valued for forty years - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to feelings of invisibility and loss of identity as relationships formed at work fade away.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals

Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I retired at 62 with everything I'd worked for - a paid-off house, healthy savings, and freedom to do whatever I wanted - and spent the first six months feeling like I was disappearing because nobody needed me anymore - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to feelings of insignificance and loss of purpose after years of being needed.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I retired at 64 with a generous pension and a calendar full of plans - and by month three I was staring at my phone realizing I had nobody to call just to talk, not because I needed something - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to unexpected loneliness and a realization of the lack of genuine friendships built outside of work.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychologists explain that people who feel neglected in retirement aren't necessarily being ignored - they're experiencing the sudden absence of the role-based relationships that made them feel valued for forty years - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to feelings of invisibility and loss of identity as relationships formed at work fade away.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

I'm 66 and I woke up last Thursday and realized I couldn't name a single thing I was looking forward to - not because nothing good was happening but because I'd trained myself to find meaning in being needed and nobody needs me anymore - Silicon Canals

Finding purpose in being needed can lead to a loss of personal desires and identity after retirement.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I retired at 62 with everything I'd worked for - a paid-off house, healthy savings, and freedom to do whatever I wanted - and spent the first six months feeling like I was disappearing because nobody needed me anymore - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to feelings of insignificance and loss of purpose after years of being needed.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

I retired at 64 with a generous pension and a calendar full of plans - and by month three I was staring at my phone realizing I had nobody to call just to talk, not because I needed something - Silicon Canals

Retirement can lead to unexpected loneliness and a realization of the lack of genuine friendships built outside of work.
more#retirement
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours ago

Psychology says the reason older people stop caring isn't emotional withdrawal - it's that they've finally learned to distinguish between what actually matters and what they were only caring about out of social obligation - Silicon Canals

Older individuals prioritize emotional connections over superficial relationships as they age, focusing on what truly matters in their lives.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours ago

The people who are best at hiding unhappiness aren't the stoic ones or the quiet ones - they're the ones who became so skilled at giving everyone around them exactly enough warmth to never be looked at too closely - Silicon Canals

People often hide their struggles behind a facade of warmth, leading to loneliness despite appearing thriving.
#friendship
Writing
fromEsquire
3 days ago

My Best Friend Lived an Extraordinary Life. Why Did He Take It So Soon?

Friendship can form unexpectedly, as seen in the bond between two boys who became best friends despite being in separate classrooms.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says the most isolating part of retirement isn't being alone - it's realizing that most of your relationships were held together by proximity, routine, and utility, not genuine curiosity about who you are - Silicon Canals

Most relationships are maintained by physical proximity rather than genuine connection, a truth that becomes evident in retirement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

The friendships that survive months of silence and pick up exactly where they left off aren't casual. They're evidence that someone once knew you beneath the performance, and the connection lives at a layer that doesn't require maintenance because it was never built on the surface in the first place. - Silicon Canals

Low-maintenance friendships can be deep connections that endure silence and distance, indicating a strong underlying bond.
Writing
fromEsquire
3 days ago

My Best Friend Lived an Extraordinary Life. Why Did He Take It So Soon?

Friendship can form unexpectedly, as seen in the bond between two boys who became best friends despite being in separate classrooms.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

Psychology says the most isolating part of retirement isn't being alone - it's realizing that most of your relationships were held together by proximity, routine, and utility, not genuine curiosity about who you are - Silicon Canals

Most relationships are maintained by physical proximity rather than genuine connection, a truth that becomes evident in retirement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

The friendships that survive months of silence and pick up exactly where they left off aren't casual. They're evidence that someone once knew you beneath the performance, and the connection lives at a layer that doesn't require maintenance because it was never built on the surface in the first place. - Silicon Canals

Low-maintenance friendships can be deep connections that endure silence and distance, indicating a strong underlying bond.
more#friendship
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours ago

The hardest part of growing up lower middle class wasn't the lack of money. It was learning to want things quietly, because visible desire in a household running on tight margins felt like an accusation against the people who were already giving everything they had. - Silicon Canals

Emotional training around scarcity shapes behavior in lower middle class childhoods, teaching children to suppress desires to avoid adding stress to their families.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

You know a woman has lost her joy in life when she describes her days accurately and without feeling - when the words are all correct and the tone is completely flat and the account of her own life sounds like something being reported rather than lived, and she doesn't notice the flatness because she has been inside it long enough that it just sounds like how things are - Silicon Canals

Emotional flatness can creep in, making life feel like a series of tasks rather than meaningful experiences.
#relationships
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours ago

There is a specific kind of couple that fights about dishes, laundry, and thermostat settings for fifteen years before one of them finally says the real sentence, which is: I need to know that you see what I do without me having to build a case for it every time. - Silicon Canals

Couples often argue about trivial matters like chores, but these disputes reflect deeper emotional needs and unresolved issues in the relationship.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
14 hours ago

There is a specific kind of couple that fights about dishes, laundry, and thermostat settings for fifteen years before one of them finally says the real sentence, which is: I need to know that you see what I do without me having to build a case for it every time. - Silicon Canals

Couples often argue about trivial matters like chores, but these disputes reflect deeper emotional needs and unresolved issues in the relationship.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Not everyone who chooses a partner with visible problems is making bad decisions. Some of them are choosing people whose damage is louder than their own, because as long as they're fixing someone else, nobody turns the spotlight around and asks what broke them. - Silicon Canals

People often choose partners with visible problems to avoid confronting their own internal issues.
more#relationships
#aging
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The most painful thing about watching a parent age isn't the physical decline. It's the moment you catch them deferring to you on a decision they would have made without hesitation ten years ago, and you both feel the transfer of authority that neither of you agreed to. - Silicon Canals

The real challenge of aging parents lies in the subtle shifts of authority and uncertainty in their decision-making.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals

Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

The most painful thing about watching a parent age isn't the physical decline. It's the moment you catch them deferring to you on a decision they would have made without hesitation ten years ago, and you both feel the transfer of authority that neither of you agreed to. - Silicon Canals

The real challenge of aging parents lies in the subtle shifts of authority and uncertainty in their decision-making.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the reason aging people feel like they don't matter isn't about what they've lost - it's that society defines mattering as productivity and visibility, and the moment you step outside those narrow roles, your value becomes invisible even to people who love you - Silicon Canals

Retirement and aging can lead to feelings of invisibility and worthlessness due to society's narrow definitions of productivity.
more#aging
#breakups
more#breakups
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

When the Body Heals: Recovery From Relational Stress

Emotional stressors can lead to chronic stress, affecting immunity and increasing autoimmune disease risk, but healing can occur after relational stress ends.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Not everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals

Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
#trauma
more#trauma
#loneliness
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the loneliness that arrives after 65 isn't an inevitable feature of aging - it's the accumulated result of every friendship that was allowed to thin, every phone call that was delayed, every invitation that wasn't extended, compounded quietly over decades until the social life that once maintained itself without effort requires more effort than it has ever required and more energy than is currently available - Silicon Canals

Loneliness often stems from a series of small decisions that weaken social connections over time.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals

Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the loneliness that arrives after 65 isn't an inevitable feature of aging - it's the accumulated result of every friendship that was allowed to thin, every phone call that was delayed, every invitation that wasn't extended, compounded quietly over decades until the social life that once maintained itself without effort requires more effort than it has ever required and more energy than is currently available - Silicon Canals

Loneliness often stems from a series of small decisions that weaken social connections over time.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says the loneliest people in life aren't the ones nobody likes - they're the kind, helpful people everyone appreciates but nobody thinks to check on because they seem so self-sufficient - Silicon Canals

Highly capable, helpful individuals often feel lonely because their strength creates an illusion that they do not need support.
more#loneliness
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a generation of men who were taught that providing was the same as loving. And there's a generation of their children who spent years in therapy learning that those aren't the same thing, only to reach an age where they finally understand that for their fathers, inside the architecture they were given, it was. - Silicon Canals

Emotional estrangement between fathers and children stems from generational differences in expressing love and vulnerability.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who grew up poor and became successful often can't fully enjoy it - not because they're ungrateful, but because some part of them never stopped waiting for it to disappear - Silicon Canals

Successful individuals often struggle with feelings of scarcity and anxiety about their financial stability, despite their achievements.
fromAxios
1 week ago

Working moms are building community beyond parenting

"The idea of giving women a space to remember who they are - without trying to teach or fix them - is what resonates."
Women in technology
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals

Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

The most painful version of not belonging isn't being rejected by strangers. It's sitting at your own family's dinner table, surrounded by people who share your last name, and feeling like you're watching the evening through glass. - Silicon Canals

Belonging can exist alongside profound loneliness, where one feels unseen even in the presence of family and friends.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals

Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Parental Burnout Is a Social Problem, Not a Personal Failure

Parental burnout has reached unprecedented levels, with over 40% of parents feeling exhausted and overwhelmed daily.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Why Some Women Lift Others Up and Some Don't

When women actively support one another by sharing information, recommending colleagues for opportunities, and amplifying achievements, they help counterbalance these structural disadvantages. These behaviours reflect what psychologists often describe as prosocial leadership—using one's position or influence to help others succeed.
Women
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Start Strong But Never Finish? 4 Causes and 4 Solutions

Starting strong and quitting is common due to tedium, poor planning, and discouragement; recognizing patterns and seeking support can help overcome this.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

People who were labeled 'too sensitive' often became adults who read rooms before anyone speaks, and the difference between those two things is about 20 years of misunderstanding - Silicon Canals

Sensitivity can evolve from a perceived weakness into a valuable skill for understanding emotional dynamics in various situations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
Women in technology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks ago

Women over 60 who say they've never been more confident didn't suddenly find self-esteem-they all stopped performing these 7 things that most women are taught to maintain from adolescence onward - Silicon Canals

Women who develop confidence later in life unlearn ingrained behaviors of self-diminishment, particularly excessive apologizing, seeking permission, and minimizing their presence and opinions.
Parenting
fromLGBTQ Nation
6 days ago

Adoption is a beautiful way to build a family. But it's not one-size-fits-all. - LGBTQ Nation

Adoption has various paths, each with unique processes, costs, and timelines, requiring thorough understanding before proceeding.
Public health
fromBusiness Insider
1 month ago

Widows who work the same jobs that killed their husbands

Silicosis kills sandstone miners in Rajasthan, India, leaving widows trapped in debt-driven labor earning minimal wages in the same deadly mines.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals

People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
6 days ago

Women Are Getting Very, Very Honest About How Their Partner Changed After They Became A Mom

Postpartum experiences reveal varying partner behaviors, ranging from supportive to abusive.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

The Impact of Detached Reactions to Tragedy

Detached responses to tragedy lower accountability and hinder empathy, while specific, caring responses promote genuine concern and action.
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Relationships
fromIndependent
3 days ago

The Divorce Diaries: 'He actually slapped me across the face on a night out, very early in, and I stupidly let it slide'

A woman shares her experience of marriage and divorce, highlighting early warning signs about her ex-husband's behavior.
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
6 days ago

Divorcees Are Exposing The Marriage-Ending Moments That Made Them Think "That's It, I'm Done"

Society's increasing acceptance of divorce allows individuals to pursue happier lives after marriage.
Relationships
fromIndependent
3 days ago

The Divorce Diaries: 'He actually slapped me across the face on a night out, very early in, and I stupidly let it slide'

A woman shares her experience of marriage and divorce, highlighting early warning signs about her ex-husband's behavior.
Relationships
fromBuzzFeed
6 days ago

Divorcees Are Exposing The Marriage-Ending Moments That Made Them Think "That's It, I'm Done"

Society's increasing acceptance of divorce allows individuals to pursue happier lives after marriage.
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Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

There's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals

People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Talking About Death: The Depth of the Meaning of Life

Death is a certain aspect of life that is often uncomfortable to discuss, yet it shapes our relationships and understanding of existence.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Mother, Clinician, Witness: Healing Communities

Violence against children impacts the entire community, necessitating protective programs and trauma-informed care for meaningful change.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

What Estranged Parents Wish Others Understood

Estrangement from adult children creates a unique, unresolved grief for parents, marked by ambiguity and a lack of social recognition.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days ago

People who go quiet when they're hurt instead of raising their voice learned somewhere very early that their anger wasn't received as information. It was received as an inconvenience. So they stopped sending the signal and started absorbing the damage, and they've been doing it so long they sometimes mistake silence for calm - Silicon Canals

Silence during conflict often indicates deeper emotional pain rather than composure or passive aggression.
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago

26 Social Burdens Women Shoulder That Are Completely Exhausting

Putting on makeup. Like, we're supposed to disguise ourselves; otherwise, people think we didn't take this outing seriously, didn't care enough, or didn't act professionally. In some ways, beauty standards are social obligations. Keeping up with nails, clothes, hair, etc., that's almost an expectation in some relationships.
Women
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
6 days ago

After Gray Divorce, Many People Struggle to Find Happiness

Many individuals experience lingering sadness after gray divorce despite seeking happiness, highlighting the importance of strong relationships and community for emotional well-being.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I grew up with a mother who was physically there but emotionally unreachable - and the confusion that produced, the child's inability to grieve a parent who is standing right in front of them, is the thing I have spent the most years in therapy trying to untangle and the thing I understood least for the longest - Silicon Canals

Emotional absence from a present parent can lead to profound feelings of unworthiness in a child.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

People who always laugh at their own pain aren't just funny. They survived childhoods where being sad meant being a burden, and that had nothing to do with resilience, and their humor is a dissociation technique that everyone mistakes for strength - Silicon Canals

Some individuals cope with pain by making jokes immediately, masking deeper emotional struggles rooted in childhood environments that discourage expressing feelings.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

There's a specific kind of grief that hits when you realize your parents weren't strict because they didn't trust you. They were strict because the world they grew up in punished mistakes permanently, and control was the only form of love that felt safe enough to offer. - Silicon Canals

Strict parenting rooted in scarcity and survival often reflects a parent's attempt to protect their child from an unforgiving world they experienced, rather than emotional withholding or personality rigidity.
fromLGBTQ Nation
2 months ago

"I feel like I am living in hell": A grieving widow laments the ugly homophobia Trump has unearthed - LGBTQ Nation

I fear every day leaving my home. Trump's attacks on all human decency have been bad enough but the 'acceptance & encouragement' MAGA gives people to harass, threaten, vandalize, and victimize our community is what frightens me most and makes the largest impact upon my life. My husband broke his ankle in November of 2024, and it was a horrendous situation made worse by the discrimination, and frankly, malicious treatment we faced by some healthcare and insurance people,
LGBT
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

My grandmother raised 6 children alone with no money and no help - and she carried a quiet philosophy about hardship that psychologists are only now putting into words - Silicon Canals

Resilience develops through focusing on controllable factors, maintaining a growth mindset, and finding meaning in adversity rather than viewing hardship as defining.
fromBusiness Insider
2 months ago

I quit my job at 35 after my husband died. It's been 6 years, and finding a new job has been harder than expected.

After my husband died suddenly at the age of 39, both my body and mind remained in a state of shock for years to come. It happened in 2018, when I was 34, and it has taken a long time for the cortisol levels in my body to come back down, and, in parallel, for the fog of grief to lift. It was an extraordinarily intense experience, and I really struggled, especially with work.
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