Mindfulness
fromPsychology Today
22 minutes agoFighting Your Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors Is Why You're Stuck
Struggling against BFRBs empowers them; releasing the struggle allows for self-compassion and engagement in meaningful activities.
#repetitive-checking
#repetitive-checking
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#self-compassion
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours agoResearch suggests that self-compassion after failure - not self-criticism - is what predicts whether someone tries again, which means being hard on yourself isn't discipline, it's the thing that ends it - Silicon Canals
Self-compassion, not self-criticism, fosters resilience and encourages individuals to recover and try again after failure.
#motivation
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoPsychology says people who want to change their lives but never start aren't lazy - they're waiting for a feeling of readiness that behavioral science confirms almost never arrives on its own - Silicon Canals
Feeling ready to act is often a byproduct of taking action, not a prerequisite.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
23 hours agoPsychology says the most emotionally strong people aren't the ones who never fall apart - they're the ones who fall apart privately, reassemble without fanfare, and never use their recovery as a reason for anyone else to feel guilty - Silicon Canals
Emotional strength involves acknowledging feelings and recovering privately, not denying vulnerability or pretending to be unbreakable.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who mellow out as they get older aren't the ones who suffered less - they're the ones who decided, at some point and without always knowing they were deciding, that the suffering was going to make them more open rather than less, and that decision, remade daily in small ways that nobody notices, is the entire difference - Silicon Canals
Emotional responses to life's challenges can change over time, leading to greater peace and stability despite ongoing difficulties.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the most important life lesson isn't learning to make better decisions - it's learning to live peacefully with the ones you can't undo - Silicon Canals
Irreversible choices shape our lives and learning to coexist with them is crucial for mental well-being.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who reply to messages within seconds aren't just efficient - they've built their sense of safety around being reachable, because somewhere in their past, being slow to respond had consequences - Silicon Canals
Instant responses to messages often stem from a psychological need to mitigate perceived threats rather than mere efficiency.
#anxiety
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says people who compulsively tidy and reorganize aren't control freaks - they learned early that the one thing they could control was the physical space around them - Silicon Canals
Compulsive tidying is a response to anxiety, rooted in a need for control and predictability in unpredictable environments.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who feel like they've been living someone else's life aren't confused or ungrateful - they're often the ones who were so good at adapting in childhood that they never stopped adapting long enough to find out who they actually were - Silicon Canals
Adapting to others' needs in childhood can lead to feeling disconnected and lost in adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNot everyone who avoids asking for help is proud. Some of them asked once, received it with a lecture attached, and learned that the cost of support was a small erosion of standing they could never quite earn back. - Silicon Canals
Asking for help can lead to unintended consequences that affect relationships and self-perception.
Mental health
fromIndependent
2 days agoAsking for a friend: 'My son has just been diagnosed with autism and ADHD. My husband also got tested and has ADHD. How will all this affect our relationship?'
Navigating the challenges of neurodiversity in a family can be overwhelming, especially with multiple diagnoses affecting communication and relationships.
#psychology
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology suggests people who adopt their parents' bad traits as they get older aren't becoming their parents - they're reverting to the most deeply installed operating system they have, the one that was running before they were old enough to choose a different one, and stress, age, and the slow erosion of self-monitoring are simply the conditions under which it boots back up - Silicon Canals
Behavioral patterns from childhood can resurface under stress, revealing deep-rooted psychological templates formed from early experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology suggests people who adopt their parents' bad traits as they get older aren't becoming their parents - they're reverting to the most deeply installed operating system they have, the one that was running before they were old enough to choose a different one, and stress, age, and the slow erosion of self-monitoring are simply the conditions under which it boots back up - Silicon Canals
Behavioral patterns from childhood can resurface under stress, revealing deep-rooted psychological templates formed from early experiences.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoI became calm the day I realized that 90% of what I worried about was just rehearsing conversations that would never happen with people who weren't even thinking about me - Silicon Canals
Imagined interactions are a common psychological phenomenon where individuals simulate conversations with others, often leading to unnecessary emotional distress.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who apologize constantly without realizing it are more damaged than they appear - because they internalize blame and absorb conflict, a survival response from childhood, which never switches off even when they're safe - Silicon Canals
Excessive apologizing often stems from childhood experiences of mistreatment and can lead to chronic self-blame in adulthood.
#overthinking
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoOverthinkers often don't realize it but psychology says the way they experience happiness is fundamentally different from most people - they can't feel joy without immediately calculating how and when they'll lose it - Silicon Canals
Chronic overthinkers experience positive emotions differently, often dampening their intensity and duration instead of savoring them.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoOverthinkers often don't realize it but psychology says the way they experience happiness is fundamentally different from most people - they can't feel joy without immediately calculating how and when they'll lose it - Silicon Canals
Chronic overthinkers experience positive emotions differently, often dampening their intensity and duration instead of savoring them.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoI used to think I was bad at relaxing until I realized I was actually excellent at scanning for what might go wrong next, and those two things cannot occupy the same body at the same time. - Silicon Canals
Relaxation failure stems from continuous threat assessment in the nervous system, not lack of discipline; the body cannot simultaneously scan for danger and rest due to competing neurological states.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI used to be unhappy and I blamed everything around me - until I realized I'd built an entire life around avoiding the one conversation I needed to have with myself - Silicon Canals
Unhappiness often stems from avoiding self-reflection and attributing life issues to external factors rather than personal choices.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoWhy Do I Worry?
Worry is future-focused mental rehearsal that distracts from deeper emotions, harms physical and emotional health, persists through perceived protection and habit, and requires compassionate awareness and boundaries to transform into growth.
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