Mindfulness
fromFast Company
18 hours agoThe simple mental habit every high-performer shares
Mindset shapes decisions and resilience; nearly all successful leaders have a personal mantra they rely on during challenges.
#power-motivation
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fromPsychology Today
1 day agoHow Mistakes Springboard Conscientious People's Growth
Many mistakes move us forward more than backward. Conscientious people often experience a springboard effect following mistakes, whereby fixing the mistakes accelerates growth faster than if they'd never made any missteps.
Productivity
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
11 hours agoPsychology says the reason so many successful people quietly burn out in their 50s isn't overwork - it's that they spent three decades performing a version of themselves that the job required, and somewhere along the way they stopped being able to locate the original person underneath, and the burnout isn't about energy, it's about grief for a self they outsourced - Silicon Canals
Identity erosion in high-performing professionals often manifests as a grief response to losing one's original self to job demands.
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoI'm 66 and I sold the business I built over two decades for more money than I ever thought I'd see - and I spent the first week staring at my bank account trying to figure out why I didn't feel anything, and I finally understood that the money was never the point, the building was the point, and once it was gone I had to meet the version of myself who wasn't building something anymore - Silicon Canals
The money was supposed to feel like something. You work your whole life thinking about the payoff. The day you can finally relax. The moment you don't have to worry about making payroll or whether that big invoice will come through.
Retirement
#self-improvement
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology says people who constantly research self-improvement but never start aren't lazy - they've confused the feeling of learning with the feeling of changing - Silicon Canals
Learning about self-improvement can create a false sense of progress without actual change in behavior.
#success
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says a truly successful life isn't measured by what you've accumulated, it's measured by whether the people closest to you feel more like themselves or less like themselves after spending time with you - Silicon Canals
Success should be measured by the quality of relationships and personal fulfillment rather than external achievements.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoIt took me until 37 to realize that almost all successful people let go of these 7 habits, but average performers keep clinging to them - Silicon Canals
Successful people abandon habits that keep others stuck, focusing instead on effectiveness and prioritizing their time.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals
Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the secret to a good retirement isn't wealth or health or even relationships - it's having at least one thing you're still in the middle of, still becoming, still learning how to do - Silicon Canals
Retirement fulfillment stems from ongoing pursuits and curiosity, not just financial security or traditional metrics of success.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the reason so many high-achievers can't enjoy their own wins isn't imposter syndrome, it's that achievement was the language they were taught love was spoken in, and they've never learned to receive love in any other form - Silicon Canals
High-achievers often feel unsatisfied with their accomplishments due to a childhood belief that achievement equals worth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
18 hours agoYou know you've encountered a high-level thinker if they make you feel smarter after the conversation, not dumber - because mediocre intellects use their intelligence to win, and high-level thinkers use it to help, and the real test of a great mind isn't how impressive they sound but how many people leave rooms they were in feeling more capable than they walked in - Silicon Canals
Real intelligence enhances others' understanding rather than intimidating them, fostering collaboration and mutual growth.
#confidence
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who genuinely know their worth don't announce it or defend it, they operate with a quiet certainty that makes negotiation, justification, and proving themselves feel like a foreign language - Silicon Canals
Genuine confidence stems from self-awareness, not the need to broadcast one's worth or achievements.
#self-discipline
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe cruelest myth about self-discipline is that you have to feel ready - you don't, you never will, and the people who figured that out earlier simply have more years of evidence that the feeling eventually follows the action - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline begins with action, not feelings of readiness or motivation.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests people who follow through on small promises to themselves aren't just building habits - they're constructing the internal evidence that they can be trusted, which is the actual foundation of lasting self-discipline - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline is shaped by accumulated evidence of personal commitments rather than mere willpower.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoThe cruelest myth about self-discipline is that you have to feel ready - you don't, you never will, and the people who figured that out earlier simply have more years of evidence that the feeling eventually follows the action - Silicon Canals
Self-discipline begins with action, not feelings of readiness or motivation.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoPsychology says people who were told they were gifted as children often grow into adults who avoid challenges - because their identity was built on being naturally good, not on getting better - Silicon Canals
Labeling children as 'gifted' can hinder their growth by tying their self-worth to innate talent rather than effort and improvement.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
fromiRunFar
1 month agoThe Virtues of Intrinsic Rewards Revisited
For my sons, those experiences proved incredibly valuable. Both of them learned to value their athletic experiences not so much for the awards they won or accolades they received but for what participating in those events did for them on the inside. In comparing their childhood experiences to my long-distance running, I realized that many of my own fondest running memories did not come from the buckles or plaques I received but rather from the internal gratification I enjoyed in completing something really difficult.
Running
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals
The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Philosophy
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoGiving Up Is Always an Option, but Rarely the Best One
When unable to achieve desired goals, people often reframe their desires as undesirable to protect self-esteem, but research shows this defensive strategy of disengagement reduces life satisfaction over time.
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago9 mental habits that separate people who achieve goals from those who just set them - Silicon Canals
Here's something that might sound counterintuitive: people who achieve their goals don't actually take them that seriously. Wait, what? Let me explain. While goal-setters treat their objectives like sacred vows they can't break (and then feel crushed when they fail), achievers approach them more like scientists in a lab. They're curious about what will happen, not attached to a specific outcome.
Productivity
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoTo See a Human: Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination
If you ever felt your motivation drain away under a micromanaging boss, he gave you the language for what was happening to you. If you ever sensed that grades and gold stars were somehow diminishing the very learning they were supposed to enhance, he explained why. And in doing so, he helped liberate psychology from one of its most limiting assumptions. The Black Box of Behaviorism For much of the 20th century, the dominant paradigm in psychological research, behaviorism, treated humans as input-output machines.
Psychology
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