UX design
fromMedium
5 hours agoDesigners: We are perpetuating our own burnout problem
Design and research roles experience the highest burnout rates in tech, driven by external pressures and internal frameworks that may not support well-being.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoMost companies don't have a burnout problem. They have a system that rewards people who can't stop performing and then acts surprised when those people collapse, because the collapse was always part of the business model. - Silicon Canals
The most dedicated employees may be the most frightened, driven by a culture that rewards overwork and leads to burnout.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
10 hours agoThere's a specific kind of tiredness that has nothing to do with sleep. It comes from years of translating yourself into a version that other people could handle, and the exhaustion lives in the gap between who you are and who you've been performing so consistently that even you forgot there was a difference. - Silicon Canals
Workplace burnout often stems from the exhaustion of pretending to be someone you're not, rather than from overwork itself.
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoMost companies don't have a burnout problem. They have a system that rewards people who can't stop performing and then acts surprised when those people collapse, because the collapse was always part of the business model. - Silicon Canals
The most dedicated employees may be the most frightened, driven by a culture that rewards overwork and leads to burnout.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoSome people don't fear failure. They fear succeeding and then being expected to sustain it, because the version of them that achieved it was running on adrenaline and desperation, and the person who shows up on Monday is someone quieter who doesn't know how to replicate what the emergency produced. - Silicon Canals
The fear of success stems from the pressure to replicate high performance, not from a desire to avoid good outcomes.
#identity
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours agoI spent a decade building a career I thought I wanted, a house I thought I needed, and a persona I thought would finally make me real - and one Saturday morning over coffee I sat with the quiet certainty that I had built all of it for someone who no longer lived inside me - Silicon Canals
Building a life based on societal expectations can lead to a personal crisis when the facade becomes unsustainable.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a specific kind of exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from performing a version of yourself all day that doesn't actually exist. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the distance between who people think you are and who you become the moment the door closes. - Silicon Canals
Performance in social settings creates psychological fatigue due to the gap between projected identity and true self.
#procrastination
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
9 hours agoPsychology says adults who struggle with procrastination aren't avoiding the task - they're avoiding the version of themselves who might fail at it - Silicon Canals
Procrastination often stems from a fear of failure rather than laziness or poor time management.
#success
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
12 hours agoI'm 37 and I realized last month that I've spent my entire adult life collecting achievements to outrun a feeling I can't name - and I genuinely have everything I was told to want versus feeling anything close to what I was promised it would feel like - Silicon Canals
Success can become an addictive trap that fails to deliver true fulfillment, leading to a cycle of chasing achievements without satisfaction.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 hours agoPsychology says people who grew up poor and became successful often can't fully enjoy it - not because they're ungrateful, but because some part of them never stopped waiting for it to disappear - Silicon Canals
Successful individuals often struggle with feelings of scarcity and anxiety about their financial stability, despite their achievements.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
21 hours agoIt took me until 37 to realize that almost all successful people let go of these 7 habits, but average performers keep clinging to them - Silicon Canals
Successful people abandon habits that keep others stuck, focusing instead on effectiveness and prioritizing their time.
#entrepreneurship
Silicon Valley food
fromEntrepreneur
21 hours agoThis 30-Year-Old Uber Employee Started a 'Scrappy' Side Hustle in Her Kitchen - It Hit $10K in 48 Hours: 'Never About Chasing a Trend'
Glabman created She's The Sauce to provide functional condiments while managing health issues, achieving $10,000 in revenue within 48 hours.
fromwww.businessinsider.com
19 hours agoMeta's CTO has some advice for college students wanting to work in tech: 'Constantly be building.'
You just have to immerse yourself in it. You should just constantly be building. That's what's going to give you the best chance of having the relevant skill set that is needed to make a difference in technology.
Education
fromFast Company
1 day agoWhat to do after a life-defining mistake
The only thing worse than making a mistake is keeping it bottled up inside. Learning from the mistakes of others could help you embark on the healing journey of sharing and working through a mistake of your own, with someone you trust.
Books
#mental-health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoWriting
I was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Writing
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI was quietly unhappy with my life for years and the most unsettling part wasn't the unhappiness - it was how functional I remained inside it, how well I performed contentment, how convincingly I answered fine to every person who asked, including myself - Silicon Canals
Pretending to be okay while feeling empty can trap individuals in a cycle of unhappiness.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific exhaustion that belongs to people who spent decades being exactly what everyone needed them to be - and then one day realized they couldn't remember what they needed - Silicon Canals
People-pleasing leads to losing one's identity and can result in profound exhaustion and disconnection from self.
Growth hacking
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who look most successful on the outside often have no idea what they're doing - they just learned early that confidence and competence look identical from a distance - Silicon Canals
The gap between perceived success and actual competence is significant, often leading to overconfidence in those with limited knowledge.
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI retired at 62 with everything I'd worked for - a paid-off house, healthy savings, and freedom to do whatever I wanted - and spent the first six months feeling like I was disappearing because nobody needed me anymore - Silicon Canals
For forty years, I knew exactly what I was doing. Check the schedule. Load the van. Drive to the job. Solve problems. Go home tired but satisfied. Now I had nothing to check, nothing to load, nowhere to go.
Retirement
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 66 and I finally learned the hardest lesson isn't that people will disappoint you - it's that you'll disappoint yourself by pretending you don't need what you need until you forget what that even was - Silicon Canals
Neglecting emotional needs leads to a profound sense of loss and disconnection from oneself and others.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
8 hours agoThere is a version of grief that only people in their forties understand. It's not for someone who died. It's for the life you were quietly building in your head for twenty years that you now realize was never going to happen, and the mourning has no name because the thing you lost never existed outside your own planning. - Silicon Canals
Midlife reckoning involves mourning an imagined life that never existed, rather than regret for choices made.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI recently understood that the tiredness I had been blaming on everything else - the job, the age, the schedule, the season - was not tiredness at all, it was the specific and sustained effort of living a life that wasn't quite mine, and the moment I understood that the exhaustion had a name it became possible, for the first time, to do something about it - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from emotional labor and the effort to maintain a false persona rather than physical demands of work.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoIf you aren't losing friends, you aren't growing up - and if that sentence has never once applied to you then either you are exceptionally lucky or you stopped growing somewhere and found it comfortable enough to stay - Silicon Canals
Growth sometimes requires letting go of friendships that no longer serve you.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe difference between people who actually change their lives and people who just talk about it almost always comes down to what they do in the first 90 seconds after waking up - Silicon Canals
The first 90 seconds after waking significantly influence the rest of the day, often leading to reactive behavior if not managed properly.
Productivity
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the people who dread Monday morning the most aren't ungrateful for their jobs. They've simply built a weekend self that feels truer than the one they perform from nine to five, and surrendering it weekly takes a toll nobody talks about - Silicon Canals
Monday dread is linked to the struggle of transitioning from a more authentic self to a work persona, not job dissatisfaction.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says people who feel successful at 50 aren't the ones who achieved the most - they're the ones who stopped measuring their worth against an imaginary scoreboard they inherited at 23 - Silicon Canals
Measuring worth against inherited societal scorecards leads to disappointment and a distorted sense of success.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a specific type of unhappiness that belongs to people who did everything right - the right degree, the stable marriage, the good job - and still wake up feeling like they're living someone else's life - Silicon Canals
Chasing external validation often leads to a sense of emptiness despite achieving societal markers of success.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 34 and I just realized I've been performing competence at work for seven years because somewhere along the way I confused being impressive with being safe, and the exhaustion I thought was burnout was actually the weight of never once letting anyone see me learn something for the first time. - Silicon Canals
Performing competence can lead to self-erasure and social rewards, masking genuine capability with a polished exterior.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThere's a specific kind of loyalty that keeps people in jobs, cities, and friendships years after the reason they stayed has disappeared. It's not inertia. It's that leaving would require admitting the time already spent wasn't building toward something, and that admission costs more than staying another year. - Silicon Canals
People remain in unfulfilling situations due to the fear of admitting past investments were unproductive, not because of passivity or fear of change.
Careers
fromSlate Magazine
1 month agoI Knew This Trait Was Common Among Start-Up Founders. I Didn't Realize How Debilitating It Would Be for the Rest of Us.
A senior manager at a startup struggles with a founder-boss who prioritizes innovation and new features over resolving current operational crises and team capacity constraints.
fromEntrepreneur
1 month agoThis Quiet Crisis Hits Entrepreneurs After Success - Here's Why
From the outside, many entrepreneurs appear to be thriving. The business is stable or growing. Experience has replaced early uncertainty. Decisions are sharper than they used to be. By most traditional measures, things are working. Yet internally, something feels off. Energy feels flatter. Wins don't land the way they once did. The work feels heavier, even when results are strong.
Startup companies
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