#personality

#personality

Cool feels to me like the stock market or Michelin restaurants: none of my business. I'm not alone. In a recent YouGov survey, a third of respondents said they weren't cool at school, with only 10% reporting that, yep, they actually were. Half claimed they were somewhere in between. But I know I'm missing out. Cool people are desirable and in demand; others want to be them or be with them.

Think about the last time you ran into someone you hadn't seen in years, maybe a school friend. You remembered them a certain way, maybe loud, always joking, the kind of person who filled a room. But when you met again, they seemed quieter and more thoughtful than you remembered. For a second, you wondered if time had traded them out for someone else.

Self-promotion isn't just a professional decision; it's a significant psychological gamble. Why do some parents want to be president of the local club while equally capable others prefer to avoid the spotlight? Why do some employees self-select for plum assignments while others duck? Science says it starts with personality. Self-promoters tend to be extroverts who enjoy the stage and project confidence. Some may even be narcissistswho areshown to predict leadership, alongside emotional awareness and self-efficacy.

If Palmer is a unique talent on the pitch, he is unique to interview, as well. Short shrift is his default setting; plenty of his answers are monosyllabic, some just a sound hmmm.