Psychology
fromPsychology Today
12 hours agoYour Instinctual Drive Predicts What You Find Beautiful
Dominant motivational drives predict aesthetic preference with 77.6% accuracy, revealing a strong link between body responses and aesthetic choices.
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fromPsychology Today
2 days agoMothers, Daughters, and Body Image Inheritance
Studies suggest that when mothers directly encourage their daughters to lose weight, it is linked to the development of bulimic symptoms. In fact, mothers who merely talk about dieting and body dissatisfaction are more likely to be diagnosed with an eating disorder.
Women
Digital life
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who use social media but never post about themselves have separated the value of staying informed from the cost of participating in the performance - and that quiet withdrawal isn't disinterest or insecurity, it's one of the most deliberate digital choices a person can make in an era that treats visibility as currency - Silicon Canals
Many social media users prefer to observe rather than participate, valuing privacy and learning over broadcasting their thoughts.
#body-image
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThere is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals
Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThere is a particular loneliness in being a man whose body never matched the archetype he was taught to aspire to. Not because anyone was cruel about it, but because the world built its furniture, its expectations, and its respect around a size he would never reach. - Silicon Canals
Body image issues in men stem from societal expectations and architectural norms, leading to a profound, often unacknowledged loneliness.
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Humor
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific loneliness that belongs to the funny one in every friend group, the person everyone quotes but nobody asks how they're doing, because the performance that made them beloved also made them seem like they didn't need the question - Silicon Canals
The most visible individual in a group often experiences profound loneliness due to their performative social role as the comedian.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoPsychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals
The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
Retirement
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the real reason being over 60 is so hard isn't aging itself its that modern culture has no framework for dignity without productivity and once you stop producing economic value, you're left to privately work out whether you still matter, in a culture that quietly keeps telling you that you don't - Silicon Canals
Retirement often leads to an identity crisis as individuals struggle with the loss of purpose and societal expectations of productivity.
Social media marketing
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the people who look the wealthiest on Instagram often aren't the ones with money, they're the ones who got trapped in a performance they can't figure out how to stop without admitting who they've quietly become - Silicon Canals
Instagram serves as a stage for performance rather than a window into real lives, often trapping users in a cycle of impression management.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe people who grew up being described as the easy child are often the ones who, later in life, are quietly realizing they were never actually easy - they were just unseen - Silicon Canals
The label of 'easy child' often masks deeper issues of unmet needs and emotional neglect.
fromArchDaily
5 days agoWhy Do We Want to Float? The Psychology of Lightness in Architecture
In 1962, the architect Buckminster Fuller envisioned a floating city that would free humanity from its dependence on the Earth. The speculative project consisted of enormous geodesic spheres that would naturally levitate in air warmed by the sun and be anchored to mountaintops.
Design
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
7 hours agoPsychology says the people described as having a strong personality aren't dominant or difficult, they're the ones who stopped softening themselves to make every room comfortable, and what reads as intensity from the outside is just the absence of the apology most people are still adding to every sentence - Silicon Canals
People often misinterpret strong personalities as difficult, but they may simply be unafraid to express themselves without apology.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe hardest thing about healing isn't the work itself. It's the quiet grief of realizing how many years you spent believing the problem was you, when the actual problem was an environment that needed you to believe that in order to keep functioning - Silicon Canals
Family systems may require a child to remain unwell for their own functionality, leading to grief and loss when the child realizes their true self.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the people who find it hardest to be taken care of when they're sick aren't independent, they're carrying a very old belief that needing someone was the fastest way to be left - Silicon Canals
Needing care from loved ones during illness can evoke feelings of vulnerability and discomfort, often rooted in deeper fears of abandonment.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe people who were praised for being mature as children and punished for being needy as adults, and the decades it takes to untangle which one was actually true - Silicon Canals
Maturity in children often reflects adult expectations, leading to long-term consequences for the child's emotional development.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the unhappiest men in any room aren't the ones who complain - they're the ones who've become so skilled at performing contentment that they've lost the ability to locate their own actual feelings beneath the performance - Silicon Canals
Many men mask their true feelings behind a facade of competence and ease, leading to emotional disconnection and confusion about their own emotions.
NYC LGBT
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5 days agoSydney Sweeney hopes Euphoria nudity 'helps change double standard'
Sydney Sweeney's character Cassie in Euphoria season three explores adult content, sparking mixed reactions about nudity and double standards in the industry.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm 34 and I just noticed that I've been describing my own life to friends in the same tone I'd use to describe someone else's, and that distance turned out to be the actual problem, not the events I was describing - Silicon Canals
Self-distancing can help manage emotions, but relying on it too much can create a disconnect from one's own life experiences.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
5 days agoThe people who are constantly checking in on everyone else aren't necessarily nurturing. Many of them are quietly running an experiment to see if anyone will ever check in on them unprompted, and the experiment has been returning the same result for decades - Silicon Canals
Constantly reaching out to others can stem from childhood experiences of needing to earn attention.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoPsychology says deep thinkers don't realize the reason they feel disconnected from their own life isn't depression - it's that observation became a shelter they forgot how to leave - Silicon Canals
Chronic detachment often misdiagnosed as depression or stress may stem from a learned behavior of observing rather than experiencing life.
fromIndependent
2 weeks agoTanya Sweeney: I'll never be a size 8 again, and I don't care how I look naked - my desire to move more and eat well is now finally rooted in health, not looks
After a bumpy first couple of weeks, which shamefully involved a few tears on a rowing machine, I began to hit my stride.
Exercise
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoI'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals
Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
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Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says the most isolating part of getting older isn't having fewer people around you - it's having fewer people who knew you when you were whole and fast and full of plans, because the version of you that exists in other people's memory is shrinking at the same rate as the guest list, and one day you'll be the only person alive who remembers what you were capable of - Silicon Canals
The hardest part of aging is losing connections to those who remember different versions of ourselves.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the hardest truth about aging isn't that your body slows down - it's that you become invisible in rooms you used to command, and most people never acknowledge this shift because it implies something they're not ready to admit about how much of their identity was built on being seen - Silicon Canals
Aging invisibly is a significant issue, where older individuals feel unnoticed and undervalued in social contexts.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoSome people who appear completely unbothered by criticism haven't stopped caring what others think. They've just moved the audience inside, and now they answer to a version of themselves that never gives them a day off - Silicon Canals
Internalized criticism often masquerades as resilience, leading to preemptive self-critique before external feedback is received.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the people who finally meet themselves in their 60s and 70s aren't reinventing anything, they're meeting the original person who got buried under decades of being useful to everyone else, and the relief they feel is recognition, not discovery - Silicon Canals
Retirement can lead to self-discovery, revealing the original self buried under roles and responsibilities.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says a woman has a beautiful soul if she has taken real pain and turned it into gentleness rather than armor - because the default response to being hurt is becoming harder, and the woman who went through the same things and came out softer instead has done something rare and almost impossible to teach - Silicon Canals
Pain can lead to gentleness, with some individuals choosing softness over hardness despite their hardships.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoThe older I get the more I notice that my body remembers arguments my mind has forgiven. A tone of voice, a specific pause before someone speaks, a door closing at a certain speed. Forgiveness turned out to be a cognitive event that the nervous system never agreed to. - Silicon Canals
Forgiveness involves both conscious decisions and unconscious bodily responses, highlighting the complexity of emotional healing beyond mere intention.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days agoThe quietest kind of exhaustion belongs to people who translate themselves into a different version for every social context in a single day, and by evening they aren't tired from activity, they're tired from the number of identities they had to maintain - Silicon Canals
Identity-switching fatigue is a modern epidemic caused by the need to perform different roles throughout the day.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoThere's a kind of exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you did today and everything to do with how many versions of yourself you performed. The tiredness isn't physical. It's the weight of translation between who you are privately and who each room requires you to become. - Silicon Canals
Exhaustion often stems from the cognitive load of managing multiple identities rather than just physical effort or workload.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoPsychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals
Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days agoThere's a specific kind of adult who apologizes for crying even when they're alone, and it isn't sensitivity, it's the residue of a childhood where emotion was something you were expected to clean up before anyone saw the mess - Silicon Canals
Adults who were invalidated in childhood often apologize for their emotions, reflecting deep-seated patterns of emotional suppression.
Running
fromIndependent
1 month ago'Social media often shows athletes as the leanest version of themselves, but that's not always the best'
Emma Moore, a Galway 800m runner, overcame RED syndrome caused by unintentional under-fuelling during her first year at DCU and is now rebuilding her competitive form.
fromSilicon Canals
1 month agoIf a woman who always wore makeup suddenly stops - not on a bad day, not when she's ill, but permanently - most people assume she's let herself go. What's actually happening is almost always one of these 7 shifts, and the last one is the one her family should pay attention to. - Silicon Canals
According to Mary Duh, a Physician Assistant in Dermatology at Mayo Clinic Health System, 'Makeup can be infected with bacteria after only one use.' Every time we reapply that favorite lipstick or dip back into our foundation, we're potentially spreading bacteria all over our faces. By avoiding foundation and blush, the skin is allowed to return to its natural oil balance and hydration.
Health
Right-wing politics
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month agoThere is no shame in being vain': the relentless rise of impossible male beauty standards
Male political and cultural figures increasingly perform militaristic authority through carefully curated facial presentation and appearance, while men's faces face unprecedented public scrutiny previously reserved for women.
fromPsychology Today
1 month agoDoes Positive Body Image Alone Improve One's Sex Life?
Many people who struggle with sexual connection, low desire, or relationship satisfaction may not be struggling with the love they feel for a partner or the level of commitment they have to their romantic relationship(s). What they may secretly be challenged by is the lack of comfort and safety they have in their own skin.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoThe Curious Geometry of the Lived Experience
This story is about complexity, advanced math, cognition, and machine computation. But hold on. For this exercise, my task is to take this complex idea and reduce it-to simplify it into something less daunting and (I hope) a bit easier to understand. So, let's take a step back. My bet is that most of us learned our first piece of geometry with two letters: x and y.
Philosophy
Mental health
fromwww.bbc.com
2 months agoI used to hate my appearance. Here's how I learned to accept it
Body Dysmorphic Disorder can severely disrupt daily life through obsessive preoccupation with perceived physical flaws, leading to isolation, compulsive behaviors, and significant emotional distress.
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