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Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm in my 60s and the hardest thing about being a parent wasn't the tiredness or the responsibility, it was watching my daughter expect good things to happen to her and realizing I'd spent my entire life bracing for bad ones, and I have no idea how to teach her something I never learned. - Silicon Canals
Anticipatory anxiety shapes perceptions and behaviors, contrasting the hopeful innocence of children with the cautious mindset developed through life experiences.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who grew up being described as the easy child are often the ones who, later in life, are quietly realizing they were never actually easy - they were just unseen - Silicon Canals
The label of 'easy child' often masks deeper issues of unmet needs and emotional neglect.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoChildren who grew up in the 1960s and 70s without structured schedules didn't just learn independence - they built an internal compass that modern children, supervised into adolescence, are rarely given the chance to develop - Silicon Canals
Children today have less freedom and fewer opportunities to solve problems independently compared to previous generations.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoI'm in my 60s and the hardest thing about being a parent wasn't the tiredness or the responsibility, it was watching my daughter expect good things to happen to her and realizing I'd spent my entire life bracing for bad ones, and I have no idea how to teach her something I never learned. - Silicon Canals
Anticipatory anxiety shapes perceptions and behaviors, contrasting the hopeful innocence of children with the cautious mindset developed through life experiences.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who grew up being described as the easy child are often the ones who, later in life, are quietly realizing they were never actually easy - they were just unseen - Silicon Canals
The label of 'easy child' often masks deeper issues of unmet needs and emotional neglect.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoChildren who grew up in the 1960s and 70s without structured schedules didn't just learn independence - they built an internal compass that modern children, supervised into adolescence, are rarely given the chance to develop - Silicon Canals
Children today have less freedom and fewer opportunities to solve problems independently compared to previous generations.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago5 things people who grew up lower middle class quietly do as adults that look strange until you understand the logic behind them - Silicon Canals
Lower middle class upbringing shapes adults' financial behaviors and anxieties, leading to habits like maintaining hidden emergency accounts.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThere's a specific kind of resentment that builds in a marriage where one person does the invisible work and the other person benefits from it without ever realizing it exists - and it doesn't show up as anger, it shows up as the slow withdrawal of a woman who got tired of being the operating system for a life that everyone in the house treats like it runs on its own - Silicon Canals
Invisible work in a household often goes unrecognized, leading to imbalance and resentment in relationships.
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Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoA clinical psychologist explains that the adult children who check on their aging parents most often aren't the favorites - they're usually the ones still hoping for a conversation they stopped expecting years ago - Silicon Canals
The favored child often receives love, while the other sibling seeks recognition and validation through ongoing efforts and communication.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
17 hours agoPsychology says the people who find it hardest to be taken care of when they're sick aren't independent, they're carrying a very old belief that needing someone was the fastest way to be left - Silicon Canals
Needing care from loved ones during illness can evoke feelings of vulnerability and discomfort, often rooted in deeper fears of abandonment.
fromIndependent
1 day agoThe Divorce Diaries: 'I was terrified he'd kill me, but I stayed because I wanted to have a baby'
I was in a domestic violence relationship where we were trying to become parents. We were doing IVF, trying adoption, and woven through all of that was a decade of domestic violence.
Relationships
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Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks agoStarting a Family: If Not Now, Then When?
Cultural pressures create a double bind around timing, leading to self-blame and uncertainty in major life decisions like parenthood.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe most dangerous phase of any long marriage isn't the first year or the seven-year mark - it's the year after the kids leave, when two people who have been co-parenting for two decades have to suddenly remember how to be two people who chose each other, and most couples have forgotten what that looks like and aren't sure they'd choose again - Silicon Canals
Empty nest syndrome reveals the challenges of reconnecting with a partner after years of focusing solely on parenting.
fromPsychology Today
2 days agoDuty vs. Selfhood: Family Dynamics in the South Asian Diaspora
Kalpana recalls the emotional abuse her mother endured and how she and her brother absorbed the fallout. These early experiences shaped her sense of safety and belonging in ways that lingered in her adulthood.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals
Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoThe day I stopped waiting for my children to make me feel appreciated was the day I finally understood that I had spent thirty years confusing their love for me with their ability to express it - Silicon Canals
Understanding love's expression can liberate us from unmet expectations in relationships.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoI'm 66 and my adult son called me last Sunday just to ask how I was - no favor, no crisis, no reason - and I didn't know how to have that conversation because I couldn't remember the last time anyone asked just to check, and I was so unprepared I turned the conversation back to him within two minutes because being asked about myself had apparently become something I don't know how to receive anymore - Silicon Canals
Men often struggle to express their feelings due to societal conditioning, leading to a sense of invisibility in their personal lives.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoThe people who were praised for being mature as children and punished for being needy as adults, and the decades it takes to untangle which one was actually true - Silicon Canals
Maturity in children often reflects adult expectations, leading to long-term consequences for the child's emotional development.
Women in technology
fromIndependent
1 month agoMotherhood unfiltered: 'There was fear the entire time. It's probably the reason I don't think I'll have another child'
Mother's Day presents emotional complexity for many women, particularly those experiencing infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, or unfulfilled motherhood desires.
fromBuzzFeed
2 months agoPeople Are Sharing The Telling Signs That Indicate "Trashy Parenting," And Yikes
Parents who shove tablets or phones in their kids' faces. Kids nowadays need to learn how to entertain themselves and regulate their emotions rather than mindlessly scroll at 2 years old. I personally think parents who do this are taking the lazy way out and are just allowing the tablet to parent for them; there is no discussion or creativity taking place. When I was a kid, I always had books, coloring books, sudoku, crosswords, and word searches with me everywhere I went as entertainment, and I think these options are a better alternative.
Public health
fromPsychology Today
2 months agoWho Gets to Be a Mother?
We'd been working together for years to make my medication regimen-treatment for schizoaffective disorder-safe for potential pregnancy. Under her care, I was tapering off an antidepressant known to cause respiratory distress and hypertension in a newborn. I'd been experiencing wild mood swings, even suicidal thoughts. My beloved doctor's eyes were sad. "I'm saying no to a pregnancy, Meg." Even in the moment, I understood her priority as a physician was to keep me safe. Still, part of me hated her.
Mental health
Mental health
fromwww.theguardian.com
2 months agoHonesty about the realities of motherhood, and proper NHS support, would go a long way | Letters
Perinatal care and societal narratives often neglect and fail women experiencing severe mental health issues after childbirth, leaving many without adequate support.
Parenting
fromBusiness Insider
1 month agoI want another child, but my husband doesn't. I've considered leaving, but instead, I'm looking for other ways to feel fulfilled.
A couple faces conflict over having a second child, with the husband satisfied with one daughter while the wife desires another, requiring honest communication and therapy to navigate their differing desires.
Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
1 month ago16 Parents Confess The Brutally Honest Reasons Why They Regret Having Kids, And It's Important
A woman who had a child due to cultural pressure rather than personal desire experiences parenting as responsibility without maternal fulfillment, and would choose not to have children if given the choice.
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