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Psychology
fromPsychology Today
18 hours ago

The Brain Does Not Develop in Isolation

Relational and intersubjective models of mind challenge traditional individualistic views in psychiatry and psychology, emphasizing social context in understanding psychological distress.
#parenting
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
3 days ago

My Wife Is Struggling With a Very Basic Part of Parenting. I Can't Keep Swooping In to Save Her!

Managing emotional responses in parenting is crucial for effective problem-solving with young children.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

My Mom Seems to Think I Owe Her for Raising Me Alone. I Don't Want to Pay Her Price.

Family relationships shouldn't be transactional, and one is not obligated to provide childcare for a parent.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 days ago

Why Setting Limits With Your Child Feels So Hard

Setting limits based on fear rather than genuine values creates uncertainty for children, leading them to test boundaries.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
3 days ago

My Wife Is Struggling With a Very Basic Part of Parenting. I Can't Keep Swooping In to Save Her!

Managing emotional responses in parenting is crucial for effective problem-solving with young children.
Parenting
fromDaily Mom magazine
2 weeks ago

How To Research Baby Products Without Losing Your Mind: Smart Strategies & Must-Have Product Recommendations " Read Now!

Researching baby products is essential for making informed choices focused on safety and practicality.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

My Mom Seems to Think I Owe Her for Raising Me Alone. I Don't Want to Pay Her Price.

Family relationships shouldn't be transactional, and one is not obligated to provide childcare for a parent.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

Psychology says parents who can't stop helping their adult children aren't being loving - they're unconsciously protecting themselves from the terror of becoming unnecessary - Silicon Canals

Parental overinvolvement may stem from a fear of irrelevance rather than solely from love.
Education
fromThe Atlantic
3 days ago

How to Raise 'Difficult' Kids-On Purpose

Students who challenge authority and engage critically are often undervalued in educational systems, yet they play a crucial role in shaping future leaders.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 week ago

People who grew up watching their parents stay together unhappily often become adults who are simultaneously terrified of commitment and terrified of leaving. They inherited the architecture of endurance without ever being shown what it was supposed to protect - Silicon Canals

Children of unhappy marriages may develop relational paralysis, feeling unable to commit or leave due to learned endurance without understanding its purpose.
DC food
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

The Enduring Power of the Anti-mother

Anti-mothers invert the caring mother stereotype, preying on children and seducing men, exemplified by the character Lucy Westenra in Dracula.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

The Psychology of Falling in Love in 240 Hours

Cultural pressures and accelerated intimacy contribute to rapid commitments in relationships, as seen in the show 'Love Is Blind'.
#motherhood
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Is There an Answer to the Question, 'Do I Start a Family?'

Women are increasingly questioning the decision to start a family, recognizing its complexity and the emotional weight it carries.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

The Ecology of Motherhood

Motherhood mirrors ecological resilience, requiring acceptance of transformation and recovery through challenges akin to natural processes like fire and regeneration.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Is There an Answer to the Question, 'Do I Start a Family?'

Women are increasingly questioning the decision to start a family, recognizing its complexity and the emotional weight it carries.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

The Ecology of Motherhood

Motherhood mirrors ecological resilience, requiring acceptance of transformation and recovery through challenges akin to natural processes like fire and regeneration.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

In Defense of "Gentle Parenting"

Gentle parenting faces criticism for being perceived as passive, while authoritative parenting is recognized as the most effective approach.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
5 days ago

Yelling at Your Child Won't Work-but Something Else Does

Positive punishment effectively changes children's behavior by replacing it rather than just eliminating it.
Boston
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

I'm 66 and I finally understand that my mother wasn't cold - she was rationing. She had a finite amount of emotional energy and five people drawing from it every day, and the distance I interpreted as indifference was a woman trying to make it to bedtime without disappearing completely. - Silicon Canals

A child's misinterpretation of a parent's emotional reserve as indifference reveals how exhaustion and finite emotional capacity shape parental behavior across decades.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

Children who were praised for being helpful and easy often become adults who are remarkably kind and deeply lonely at the same time - because they learned that being low-maintenance was how you earned love, and now they can't ask for what they need without feeling like a burden - Silicon Canals

Conditional praise can lead to emotional costs and a sense of conditional love in children, impacting their adult relationships and self-perception.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
3 weeks ago

My Needy Aunt Is Back in My Life. Now She's Got Her Eyes on My Daughter.

Navigating family relationships can be challenging, especially when expectations and memories differ between generations.
#parenting-advice
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
1 week ago

What To Say When Someone Comments On Your Parenting, According To Experts

Responding to unsolicited parenting advice requires understanding the intent behind the comment.
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
1 week ago

What To Say When Someone Comments On Your Parenting, According To Experts

Responding to unsolicited parenting advice requires understanding the intent behind the comment.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

My Mother's New Fixation Is Terrifying My Daughter. She's Got to Stop.

A grandmother's repeated talk of impending death is frightening a 7-year-old; parents should establish boundaries with the grandmother and have an age-appropriate conversation with their child about mortality.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 weeks ago

Does the Dominant Twin Really Exist?

Twin personality differences develop through parental attachment, parental perception, and continuous social comparison rather than genetics and environment alone.
fromKqed
1 month ago

Why Mammals Gave Up On Laying Eggs | KQED

The vast majority of animal species on this planet lay eggs, most insects, most fish, most amphibians, most reptiles, all birds, and even a few mammals lay eggs to reproduce. And if you go back far enough, you can see that our ancestors laid eggs for millions of years too.
Science
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

Stop Fixing, Start Strengthening: How to Raise Resilient Kids

Teaching children to navigate difficult emotions fosters resilience, confidence, and self-worth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

People who grew up watching one parent silently absorb the other's mood didn't just learn patience. They learned that love looks like disappearing, and they've been replicating that pattern in every relationship since without recognizing it as a blueprint. - Silicon Canals

Children internalize their parents' conflict resolution patterns, often learning self-erasure and emotional accommodation as love rather than developing healthy boundary-setting and authentic communication skills.
fromMail Online
1 month ago

'Baby brain' is no joke - it does exist, study finds

Expectant mothers lost an average of nearly five per cent of their grey matter, the tissue responsible for processing emotions, information, and empathy. This loss isn't a sign of decline as Lead researcher Professor Susana Carmona of the Gregorio Marañón Health Research Institute likened it to pruning a tree. 'Some branches are cut to make it grow more efficiently,' she explained.
Medicine
Parenting
fromFast Company
1 week ago

Parents: A valuable source of AI intelligence

AI-assisted parenting tools are being developed by parents who understand the real challenges of childcare.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
1 month ago

My mother's best advice: go in to bat for the ones you love

A mother's greatest gift was allowing her child to make mistakes without judgment while quietly advocating behind the scenes, rather than offering direct advice.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 weeks ago

Did My Mom Really Love One of Us More Than the Other?

The favored child dynamic shifted dramatically during adolescence, leading to feelings of rebellion and alienation.
Medicine
fromwww.bbc.com
1 month ago

Pregnant women shed grey matter to help with motherhood, study seen by BBC suggests

Pregnancy reduces grey matter in the brain by nearly 5% on average, representing beneficial neurological rewiring that enhances maternal bonding and caregiving capabilities rather than cognitive decline.
Miscellaneous
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says people who were the "easy child" in their family didn't actually have fewer needs - they just learned faster than their siblings that expressing those needs came at a cost - Silicon Canals

Children who suppress their needs to avoid conflict often internalize the belief that having needs makes them burdensome, carrying this pattern into adulthood.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

I raised my younger siblings more than I parented my own children because by the time I had kids I'd already used up something - a patience, a vigilance, a willingness to carry - that most new parents still have fresh. And nobody in my family has ever connected those two things. - Silicon Canals

Parentification—when children assume adult caregiving responsibilities prematurely—depletes emotional resources that affect their capacity for parenting their own children later in life.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Calm Doesn't Always Need a Technique

Young children develop emotion regulation through caregiver co-regulation and brain maturation rather than through taught coping strategies and techniques.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks ago

7 behavioral patterns people display when they were raised by a parent who loved them deeply but had no idea how to express it without criticism - Silicon Canals

Critical parents can love deeply yet struggle to express it without criticism, leading to complex emotional patterns in their children.
Philosophy
fromApaonline
2 months ago

The Best Available Parent

Parental legal authority should be justified by the child's best interests and held by those who would benefit the child most through caregiving.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How Feelings Lead to Hitting

But I would like to take a different approach. I would like to suggest that we can make some headway by considering that human behaviors are caused by their feelings, and if we can put words to the feelings (verbalization), we will go a long way to stopping physical punishment.
Mental health
Science
fromwww.npr.org
2 months ago

What monogamy in the animal world tells us about ourselves

Monogamy varies widely among mammals; humans rank relatively high, while species such as beavers and Ethiopian wolves exhibit stronger pair-bonding.
Mental health
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

4 Words to Quickly Stop Your Child's Overthinking

Coach anxious children to Pause, Acknowledge, Contain, and Engage (PACE); interrupt overthinking loops rather than offering reassurance or logical answers to worries.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

A Family Science Approach to Parenting

Modern parenting culture emphasizes achievement and comparison, creating emotional communication challenges that stem from broader social patterns of productivity and performance expectations.
fromMail Online
1 month ago

Why women's breasts are so large compared to other animals, revealed

Human breasts sit at an elevated temperature, protecting a newborn from hypothermia. What's more, the size and shape of the breast allows for broad contact surface - enhancing the heat transfer from mother to child. This could improve a newborn's chances of survival and provide an evolutionarily grounded explanation for the development of external breasts in humans.
Science
Parenting
fromScary Mommy
3 weeks ago

I Spent A Year Talking To ADHD Experts. Here's What I've Learned As A Mom.

ADHD parenting focuses on recognizing patterns and making gradual improvements rather than seeking perfection.
Mental health
fromHuffPost
2 months ago

The 1 Grandparent Who Has The Biggest Impact On Kids

Investment from maternal grandmothers protects grandchildren from negative emotional and behavioral effects of multiple adverse early-life experiences.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

How to Love Your 'Daughtering' Without Losing Yourself

Adult daughters perform substantial invisible logistical and emotional labor—"daughtering"—requiring naming, boundary-setting, and a sustainable values-based relationship to that role.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago

Research suggests the reason your mother cries when she's happy for you and your father goes quiet when he's proud of you isn't a generational difference - it's that the emotion of watching the person you made succeed at the thing you were afraid they'd fail at overwhelms the two systems differently, and both the tears and the silence are the sound of a nervous system that cares more than the body knows how to express - Silicon Canals

Parents experience overwhelming relief when children succeed because it resolves deep-seated fears about their financial stability and future, expressed through different emotional channels rather than different values.
fromwww.nature.com
1 month ago

Shared neural substrates of prosocial and parenting behaviours

Mice with higher levels of parenting exhibit more prosocial allogrooming toward stressed adults. The medial preoptic area (MPOA), a brain area involved in parenting behaviour, bidirectionally regulates allogrooming toward stressed conspecifics. Allogrooming and parenting behaviours recruit a partially overlapping neuronal ensemble in the MPOA, are both controlled by an MPOAtoVTA pathway and are associated with dopamine release in the nucleus accumbens.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

If you rarely received affection growing up, psychology says you likely developed these 8 personality traits - Silicon Canals

Emotional neglect in childhood commonly produces enduring traits like chronic perfectionism, approval-seeking, emotional shut-down, people-pleasing, low self-worth, and fear of intimacy.
#maternal-ambivalence
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

A Secret That Some Mothers Will Never Tell

Mothers commonly experience love without liking their children, a stigmatized feeling kept secret due to idealized motherhood expectations that deny natural ambivalence.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

A Secret That Some Mothers Will Never Tell

Mothers commonly experience love without liking their children, a stigmatized feeling kept secret due to idealized motherhood expectations that deny natural ambivalence.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
4 weeks ago

My Husband Is Treating My Pregnancy Like a Science Experiment. He Needs to Stop.

A husband's excessive focus on pregnancy perfection can be addressed through evidence-based resources and setting boundaries on information sharing.
fromScary Mommy
2 months ago

This Mom Says That The Woman With The Happiest Relationships Are "Useless"

"The smartest women with the happiest relationships are the useless women," Dianna Lee begins in her video. "As you can probably tell, I'm a highly capable woman. I'm capable throughout all areas of my life, through my schooling days, to my career, and I attacked my marriage life in exactly the same way. I just executed. I was fast, efficient, and I knew exactly what needed to get done. And in retrospect, it was so wrong."
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Tool Use By Animals: Why the Hype and Why It's So Important

Recently, two unexpected examples by a wild wolf and a domesticated cow named Veronika attracted global attention and once again opened the door for experts and others to weigh in on the question, "Are these really examples of tooling?" Many people are eager to know more about the nitty-gritty details of tooling, so I am thrilled that Dr. Benjamin Beck, an expert in this area, could answer a few questions about this fascinating behavior.
Science
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Loving Your Child and Grieving Your Genetics are Separate

Grief over genetic loss and love for a donor-conceived child are separate emotions that can coexist without affecting parental bonding.
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Had a Strange, Unsettling Experience Breastfeeding Each of My Four Children. I Finally Figured Out Why.

Breastfeeding triggered intense emotional distress including dread, sadness, and panic for the author across four children, despite lacking physical pain, leading her to switch to formula after brief periods.
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I've Always Known What Kind of Person My Mother Is. Unfortunately, My 3-Year-Old Has Figured It Out, Too.

It's easy to get caught up in what we believe we owe our parents. But we shouldn't forget what we owe ourselves, or our children. It's great that your child was able to communicate her discomfort to you. She has let you know that she 'really, really' doesn't want to visit your mom. And now I think she needs you to pay attention to those things.
Parenting
Parenting
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Feel Comfortable Allowing My Daughter to Do a Common Childhood Errand. My Wife Says It's Unthinkably Dangerous.

Parents must balance legitimate safety concerns with children's need for independence and age-appropriate autonomy in low-risk situations.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

There's No Such Thing as a Child Expert

No true parenting or child experts exist because children are unique, fallible, and inconsistent individuals; expertise in parenting strategies does not equate to understanding your specific child better than you do.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychology says people from strict homes often become adults who do these 7 things unconsciously - Silicon Canals

Strict, authoritarian childhoods produce ingrained coping behaviors—people-pleasing, perfectionism, and boundary erosion—that can undermine adult relationships, career, and wellbeing.
Parenting
fromSilicon Canals
1 month ago

Psychology says parents who provided everything materially and nothing emotionally aren't cold - they were loved the same way and genuinely had no idea there was another option - Silicon Canals

Emotionally unavailable parents often substitute material provision and gifts for emotional presence, translating affection into the only language they fluently speak.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Psychology says adults who apologize excessively were usually raised in homes where these 7 patterns were normalized - Silicon Canals

Excessive apologizing in adulthood often stems from childhood survival strategies formed in emotionally volatile or invalidating family environments.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Why Children Seem to Have a Favorite Parent

Children's preference for one parent reflects attachment biology and caregiving responsiveness, not parental favoritism or lack of love.
Parenting
fromTODAY.com
1 month ago

Mom Pays Kids to Read Chapter Books. Brilliant or Bribery?

A family uses monetary incentives to encourage children to read chapter books, successfully motivating them to develop reading skills beyond graphic novels.
Parenting
fromIndependent
2 months ago

Our daughter only wants her mum - how can I step in to help soothe her and share the load?

Young children often prefer one parent; gently stepping back and rebalancing caregiving duties prevents caregiver burnout and supports children's developing emotional regulation.
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Listen to Your Mother: What Children Learn by Eavesdropping

What makes me even crazier is that I know they can listen. I know this because they do all the time, mostly when they aren't supposed to. I can't tell you how many times I've been having an adult conversation with my husband and/or friends and my two children-who haven't listened to a word I've said all day-suddenly have very thoughtful and detailed questions
Parenting
fromLondon Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com
1 month ago

Why does my baby cry for no reason? A new mom's guide to what's really going on - London Business News | Londonlovesbusiness.com

Being a new mom can be overwhelming, especially when you can't figure out why your baby is crying. There might have already been a time you ask yourself, "Why does my baby cry for no reason?" You must have missed your baby's subtle signs. If you use a video baby monitor , you can spot their cues quickly and take action immediately before crying starts.
Parenting
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Parenting and Unconditional Love

Love a child unconditionally, even during their worst moments, while balancing safety and boundaries when serious mental illness affects behavior.
Parenting
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

How to Practice Mentalization in Parenting

Mentalization is imagining and reflecting on a child's thoughts and feelings to improve parental understanding, model perspective-taking, and support emotional regulation.
fromTODAY.com
1 month ago

She Hired a Babysitter and Came Home to a Mess. Should Sitters Tidy Up?

It's late. I want to go to bed, but instead I'm picking up popsicle sticks and wrappers. I was always taught to leave the place better than I found it. I'm not expecting anyone to fold laundry or scrub floors. But I do expect the mess made during the evening to be taken care of, especially when my kids have been asleep for over two hours.
Parenting
Parenting
fromBuzzFeed
2 months ago

18 Parenting Norms From Other Countries That Most Americans Don't Pactice

Parenting practices vary widely worldwide—mealtime norms, stranger interactions with infants, and school food and manners differ significantly across cultures.
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