My husband is 76 but doesn't look a day over 60. He has a full head of hair with little graying, no facial wrinkles, and he's fairly fit. I'm 71 and look every day my age, probably older. I have graying hair lots of it but I like the color and will never dye it. I am fit, but the deep facial wrinkles and turkey neck emphasize my age.
"The smartest women with the happiest relationships are the useless women," Dianna Lee begins in her video. "As you can probably tell, I'm a highly capable woman. I'm capable throughout all areas of my life, through my schooling days, to my career, and I attacked my marriage life in exactly the same way. I just executed. I was fast, efficient, and I knew exactly what needed to get done. And in retrospect, it was so wrong."
I do feel like there was history and I think a lot of it was your experience of what that ultimately meant for a relationship; that it could put extra strain when you're eating, sleeping, breathing each other in that way,
I didn't speak up in my first marriage because I didn't think I was supposed to. I think a lot of women, especially those raised to be the good girl, have lived this same script. My upbringing ingrained in me the need to 'follow the rules' and 'don't rock the boat,' leading to a silence that felt expected rather than rebelled against.