I do feel like there was history and I think a lot of it was your experience of what that ultimately meant for a relationship; that it could put extra strain when you're eating, sleeping, breathing each other in that way,
I didn't speak up in my first marriage because I didn't think I was supposed to. I think a lot of women, especially those raised to be the good girl, have lived this same script. My upbringing ingrained in me the need to 'follow the rules' and 'don't rock the boat,' leading to a silence that felt expected rather than rebelled against.
In a 2011 Vanity Fair interview, Bacall discussed how the relationship had affected her career. Bogart 'wanted a wife. He didn't want an actress... He'd been married to three actresses, and from the beginning he said to me, 'I love you, and if you want a career, I'll do everything I can to help you, but I won't marry you.' He wanted a wife that would go with him and be there.'