Discrepancies in salaries within a marriage are common and can stem from differences in career fields, education, work experience, or personal choices about balancing family and professional life. While income gaps don't inherently cause problems, they can create tension if couples don't openly communicate about expectations, financial responsibilities, or feelings related to money and contribution. Some partners may feel pressure, guilt, or resentment depending on who earns more, while others may struggle with societal norms around gender and income.
Start with the median household income for California's city-dwelling millennials at $109,600. That's 33% above the $82,600 median in the cities outside of California. Next, consider the overall median income of $101,200 in California compared with $76,100 elsewhere also a 33% gap. While California millennials are clearly well-compensated compared with their national peers, consider the modest premium they earn in-state.
"Overdraft and non-sufficient fund (NSF) fees are 'one of the most common exploitative mechanisms big banks use to target the poor,' Senators Elizabeth Warren (D-Massachusetts), Richard Blumenthal (D-Connecticut), and Bernie Sanders (I-Vermont) wrote to 25 banks on August 28, including JPMorgan Chase, Wells Fargo, PNC Bank, TD Bank, and Bank of America. 'When consumers' finances are already stretched thin, exorbitant overdraft fees can cause other payments to bounce - leading to even more fees in a vicious circle that can 'turn setbacks into crises,'"
Your boyfriend's insecurity about your increased income reflects selfishness rather than support. He seems unable to handle your success, indicating deeper issues in your relationship.