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#communication #psychology #manipulation #relationships #decision-making #emotional-manipulation #social-media
Humor
fromSilicon Canals
3 hours agoPeople who laugh before they finish telling a painful story aren't handling it well. They're releasing the listener from having to respond to it seriously, which is a skill they learned from people who couldn't. - Silicon Canals
Laughter during painful stories often serves as a social cue to ease discomfort rather than indicating healing.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
19 hours agoI've been with my partner for years and I only just realized that every time I said "let's be rational" during an argument, what they heard was "your feelings don't matter" - and that's what's been quietly pushing us apart - Silicon Canals
Prioritizing logic over emotional validation can undermine relationships and lead to feelings of being unheard and diminished.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day agoThe people who say they don't care what others think are almost never telling the whole truth. What they actually did was move the audience inward, and now they perform for a private version of the same judges they claim to have escaped. - Silicon Canals
Indifference to others' opinions often masks internalized judgment rather than true freedom from social conformity.
fromPsychology Today
1 day agoThe Effects of Media Depictions or Mediaspeak on War
A whole vocabulary of mediaspeak terms applied to real life has gradually emerged. Included here, among others, are: collateral damage, neutralized, canceled, surgical strike, playbook, rules of the game, high-value target, and gamechanger.
World politics
Startup companies
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the people who find lasting success in business aren't the ones who mastered the habits productivity culture celebrates - they've quietly figured out that most of what business media treats as essential is noise, and the actual signal is found in a much smaller set of decisions most people overlook - Silicon Canals
Sustainable business success comes from focusing on key decisions rather than following productivity trends and hacks.
#manipulation
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
2 days agoWhen Being the Victim Becomes a Strategy
Victim behavior in relationships creates a repetitive cycle of manipulation and emotional confusion.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoNobody warns you that the fakest people you'll ever meet won't be the obvious ones - they'll be the ones who remember your birthday, ask about your kids, and make you feel seen right up until the moment their kindness stops being useful to them - Silicon Canals
Fake niceness can be a strategic manipulation to create indebtedness rather than genuine connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoResearch suggests the most effective way to shut down a manipulator isn't arguing with their logic - it's refusing to participate in the emotional transaction they're trying to create - Silicon Canals
Manipulators seek to dominate rather than engage in genuine dialogue, using emotional reactions as a means to control the interaction.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 weeks agoI'm 44 and the most powerful thing I ever learned about dealing with manipulative people is that silence - actual, sustained, unapologetic silence - makes them unravel in ways that confrontation never does - Silicon Canals
Silence can effectively disrupt manipulative dynamics by refusing to engage in confrontational exchanges.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks agoNobody warns you that the fakest people you'll ever meet won't be the obvious ones - they'll be the ones who remember your birthday, ask about your kids, and make you feel seen right up until the moment their kindness stops being useful to them - Silicon Canals
Fake niceness can be a strategic manipulation to create indebtedness rather than genuine connection.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who check on everyone else during a crisis before acknowledging their own fear aren't selfless - they learned that being needed is the only form of safety their childhood ever reliably delivered - Silicon Canals
Composure in crises often masks unresolved childhood fears and the need to fulfill others' expectations.
Mindfulness
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says people who can walk away from an argument without needing the last word aren't passive or weak - they've learned that some people don't argue to understand, they argue to win, and disengaging from a game that was never designed to have a fair outcome is one of the most sophisticated emotional skills a person can develop, even though it almost always gets mistaken for not caring - Silicon Canals
Walking away from unproductive arguments reflects wisdom, not weakness, and is essential for emotional health.
fromTheregister
2 days agoGit identity spoof fools Claude into giving bad code the nod
In a blog published this week, Manifold Security showed how an AI-powered code reviewer built on Claude accepted changes that appeared to come from a legitimate maintainer. By setting a fake author name and email in Git, the team made a commit appear to originate from a trusted source, then passed it through an automated review flow where the model approved it.
Information security
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology suggests you will always push away good things if your subconscious mind doesn't believe you deserve them - and most people who do this don't recognize it as pushing, they just wonder why nothing good ever seems to stay - Silicon Canals
Self-sabotage often occurs unconsciously, pushing good things away despite a desire for improvement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPeople who research every decision exhaustively before acting aren't thorough - they're trying to build a guarantee in a world that doesn't sell them because the last time they trusted their gut without evidence something expensive happened and the body never forgot the bill - Silicon Canals
Chronic overanalysis of decisions stems from past failures, leading to wasted time and missed opportunities.
#introversion
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoPsychology says the quietest person in a group conversation often isn't the least engaged - they're often the one processing at a depth the loudest voices in the room have stopped bothering to reach - Silicon Canals
Silence in group settings often indicates deep cognitive processing rather than disengagement.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days agoNot every quiet person is thinking deeply. Some of them are monitoring. They're tracking the emotional weather of every person in the room because they learned as children that a shift in someone's tone was the only warning system available, and the monitoring never switched off even after the danger did. - Silicon Canals
Quiet individuals may not be shy; they can be monitoring their surroundings, analyzing social cues instead of engaging.
#cybersecurity
Information security
fromThe Hacker News
2 weeks ago3 Reasons Attackers Are Using Your Trusted Tools Against You (And Why You Don't See It Coming)
Cyber attackers increasingly exploit legitimate tools within environments, making detection difficult and expanding the attack surface organizations must manage.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 weeks agoMost people don't realize that the dishonest people in their lives rarely lie about facts - they lie about their intentions, and that specific distinction is why you keep feeling confused rather than simply hurt - Silicon Canals
Intention lies involve sharing true facts with hidden motives, making them difficult to detect.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says people who replay conversations in their head didn't develop that habit by accident - most of them learned early that saying the wrong thing had real consequences, and now their brain replays every exchange searching for mistakes and misfires like a security system that was installed in childhood and has never once been turned off - Silicon Canals
Replaying conversations stems from early experiences where words had significant consequences, leading to a defense mechanism of constant analysis.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days agoPsychology says the people who seem impossible to offend aren't thick-skinned. They decided long ago that showing hurt gives others a map they haven't earned, so they absorb the wound and reclassify it as information - Silicon Canals
Emotional toughness often masks deep sensitivity, leading individuals to absorb pain without showing it, as vulnerability can be weaponized by others.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 week agoPsychology says the most damaging people in your life are rarely the obviously cruel ones - they're the ones who were kind just often enough to keep you doubting your own perception - Silicon Canals
Intermittent reinforcement creates confusion and self-doubt, making it difficult for individuals to recognize toxic relationships.
fromElectronic Frontier Foundation
2 months agoBeware: Government Using Image Manipulation for Propaganda
A short while later, the White House posted the same photo - except that version had been digitally altered to darken Armstrong's skin and rearrange her facial features to make it appear she was sobbing or distraught. The Guardian one of many media outlets to report on this image manipulation, created a handy slider graphic to help viewers see clearly how the photo had been changed.
US politics
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 weeks ago7 phrases that sound caring but are actually a self-centred person redirecting the conversation back to themselves - and the one most people fall for every time is the phrase that begins with "I totally understand because I..." followed by a story that replaces yours entirely - Silicon Canals
Conversational narcissism redirects focus to the speaker, often disguised as empathy, making it difficult to recognize.
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