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Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
21 hours ago

My Girlfriend Let Me Do Something That Totally Embarrassed Her. It's Unlocked Something in Me I Didn't Know Existed.

Exploring newfound kinks can enhance intimacy, but communication with partners is essential for healthy relationships.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says a truly successful life isn't measured by what you've accumulated, it's measured by whether the people closest to you feel more like themselves or less like themselves after spending time with you - Silicon Canals

Success should be measured by the quality of relationships and personal fulfillment rather than external achievements.
Law
fromAbove the Law
19 hours ago

Sex, Drugs, And Social Media Addiction - Above the Law

Social media addiction is recognized legally, with a jury finding it comparable to substance addiction, leading to support groups like Media Addicts Anonymous.
fromwww.theguardian.com
21 hours ago

I felt like I'd stumbled on a cheat code': what is the burned haystack dating method?

The BHDM has two main components: the 10 rules of engagement, which include not spending too much time on the apps and blocking any user who doesn't seem like a match.
Relationships
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says a woman has a beautiful soul if she has taken real pain and turned it into gentleness rather than armor - because the default response to being hurt is becoming harder, and the woman who went through the same things and came out softer instead has done something rare and almost impossible to teach - Silicon Canals

Pain can lead to gentleness, with some individuals choosing softness over hardness despite their hardships.
#love
Psychology
fromFast Company
1 day ago

Want to live a longer, happier life? Science says work to be more successful (but not in the way you might think)

Engagement in pursuing goals, rather than achieving them, correlates with longer, more fulfilling lives.
#intimacy
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How to Stop Feeling Lonely in Your Relationship

Early survival habits can create emotional distance in intimate relationships, leading to feelings of loneliness and disconnection.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

How to Stop Feeling Lonely in Your Relationship

Early survival habits can create emotional distance in intimate relationships, leading to feelings of loneliness and disconnection.
Medicine
fromSlate Magazine
2 weeks ago

Almost Every Time I Orgasm, I Have an Involuntary Reaction. It Terrifies Me.

Severe orgasm headaches can occur in some individuals, causing intense pain and discomfort during climax.
Mental health
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says the unhappiest men in any room aren't the ones who complain - they're the ones who've become so skilled at performing contentment that they've lost the ability to locate their own actual feelings beneath the performance - Silicon Canals

Many men mask their true feelings behind a facade of competence and ease, leading to emotional disconnection and confusion about their own emotions.
#attraction
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Demon Lover Archetype: When Intensity Masquerades as Love

Intense attraction often reflects unconscious patterns rather than true compatibility, leading to emotional dependency and attachment to unavailable partners.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Demon Lover Archetype: When Intensity Masquerades as Love

Intense attraction often reflects unconscious patterns rather than true compatibility, leading to emotional dependency and attachment to unavailable partners.
#friendship
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago
Relationships

There's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals

Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals

Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the adult who has acquaintances but no close friends isn't failing socially - they're often someone who learned early that real closeness came with conditions, and a polite distance has always felt safer than the bill - Silicon Canals

Emotional distance in friendships often stems from conditioned avoidance learned in childhood, not a failure of social skills.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

There's a certain type of friendship you only appreciate in your 50s and 60s - the one where you can sit in the same room for an hour without talking and not feel like anything needs to be filled, and the fact that you can be completely unproductive in each other's company is the exact thing that makes it valuable, because most relationships require performance and this one doesn't - Silicon Canals

Friendships that truly support you in later life often form in adulthood, not childhood, and thrive in shared silence and presence.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

I'm 37 and I just realized that the reason I have no close friends isn't because I'm hard to love - it's because I learned young that needing people was dangerous - Silicon Canals

Recognizing patterns in friendships reveals a fear of vulnerability and a tendency to withdraw as relationships deepen.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 day ago

I'm a 50-Year-Old Man. I'm Afraid My New Turn-On Makes Me a Terrible Person.

Exploring kinks can raise concerns about underlying misogyny, but self-reflection and active support for women's issues can help address these feelings.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
1 day ago

Psychology says people who can't stand being the center of attention even for something good - a birthday, an achievement, a toast - aren't shy or humble, they were raised in an environment where being seen too clearly was a setup for criticism or punishment, and the flush they feel when a room turns toward them is a threat response their body has never retired, even for love - Silicon Canals

Some individuals struggle with positive attention due to learned survival responses from childhood, where visibility equated to vulnerability.
fromMail Online
3 weeks ago

Scientists discover the male G-spot is not where anyone thought

The frenular delta, described as a V-shaped or Y-shaped area on the underside of the penis, is packed with specialized nerve endings that create intense pleasure.
Medicine
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
1 day ago

Why We Cry Emotional Tears When No Other Animal Does

Emotional tears serve as a unique social signal in humans, communicating feelings and activating empathy in observers.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

The people who are constantly checking in on everyone else aren't necessarily nurturing. Many of them are quietly running an experiment to see if anyone will ever check in on them unprompted, and the experiment has been returning the same result for decades - Silicon Canals

Constantly reaching out to others can stem from childhood experiences of needing to earn attention.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says the reason so many high-achievers can't enjoy their own wins isn't imposter syndrome, it's that achievement was the language they were taught love was spoken in, and they've never learned to receive love in any other form - Silicon Canals

High-achievers often feel unsatisfied with their accomplishments due to a childhood belief that achievement equals worth.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology says the loneliest form of love isn't being unloved its being adored for a version of yourself you've been performing so long that the real you has started to feel like the imposter - Silicon Canals

The worst loneliness is being loved for a false self that no longer exists.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

New Findings About Some Women's Release of Fluid on Orgasm

Reports of women releasing fluid on orgasm date back 2,000 years. Western physicians largely ignored the phenomenon until the 1970s, when it became quite controversial. Western sexologists first took this issue seriously in 1982, when eminent sex researchers coauthored a bestselling book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality.
Women in technology
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

There's a specific kind of person who apologizes for things that weren't their fault, and it isn't low self-esteem. It's a preemptive fee they learned to pay to keep situations from escalating into something worse - Silicon Canals

Apologies can serve as a preemptive tool to de-escalate potential conflict, rather than solely indicating low self-esteem.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
2 days ago

Psychology says people who genuinely know their worth don't announce it or defend it, they operate with a quiet certainty that makes negotiation, justification, and proving themselves feel like a foreign language - Silicon Canals

Genuine confidence stems from self-awareness, not the need to broadcast one's worth or achievements.
Relationships
fromScary Mommy
2 days ago

Ask A MWLFT: What If The Spark Doesn't Come Back?

The empty nest may not revive a couple's sex life but reveals the underlying relationship dynamics shaped by parenting.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
3 days ago

How Can Survivors Regain Pleasure After Sexual Trauma?

Survivors of sexual trauma can experience a range of sexual responses, including both desire and avoidance, and their fantasies often overlap with non-victims.
#relationships
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
3 days ago

We're young, in love, and sleep in separate bedrooms. It's made our romantic life even better.

Separate bedrooms enhance personal space and sleep quality for couples, allowing for a healthier relationship dynamic.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
5 days ago

9 Signs Your Relationship Isn't Worth Fighting For

Relationships should not be a constant source of stress; if efforts to improve fail, it may be time to move on.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Relationships
fromwww.businessinsider.com
3 days ago

We're young, in love, and sleep in separate bedrooms. It's made our romantic life even better.

Separate bedrooms enhance personal space and sleep quality for couples, allowing for a healthier relationship dynamic.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
5 days ago

9 Signs Your Relationship Isn't Worth Fighting For

Relationships should not be a constant source of stress; if efforts to improve fail, it may be time to move on.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

I realized this year that every relationship I've stayed too long in was one where I had to be quieter to make it work - Silicon Canals

Compromising in relationships can lead to diminishing one's authentic self, resulting in a quieter, less expressive version of oneself.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
3 days ago

What really controls our appetite hunger, stress or habit?

Hunger, appetite, and fullness are regulated by different brain areas, influencing our eating behaviors and responses to food.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
3 days ago

Psychology suggests there's a certain type of anger that lives inside the most agreeable people - it's the anger of swallowing every small injustice, every dismissive comment, every overlooked contribution for decades, and the reason the calmest person in your family might one day explode over something trivial isn't the trivial thing, it's the fifty years of larger things they never allowed themselves to react to - Silicon Canals

Agreeableness can lead to emotional accumulation, resulting in explosive reactions over seemingly trivial matters due to suppressed feelings.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

I'm 37 and I finally understand why I keep saying yes to things I want to say no to - psychology calls it "fawning" and once you see it you can't unsee it - Silicon Canals

Fawning behavior leads to difficulty in saying no, causing resentment despite self-awareness and understanding of its irrationality.
Psychology
fromwww.theguardian.com
4 days ago

The emotional security secret: how to get healthier, happier and have stronger relationships

Amir Levine's new book, Secure, offers tools to help individuals develop secure attachment styles for improved relationships and longevity.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
6 days ago

The Minute This Sex Toy Enters the Bedroom, My Night Is Ruined

Using vibrators during sex can create challenges for tops seeking satisfaction and connection with their partners.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who are liked by everyone but have no close friends have perfected the art of being liked without ever being known - and the distance between those two things is where their loneliness actually lives, invisible to everyone who enjoys their company and unbearable to the person providing it - Silicon Canals

Mastering likability can lead to isolation, as it prevents genuine connections and vulnerability with others.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

Psychology says people who are careful about who they let into their life aren't antisocial or cold - they've simply learned that the wrong person in your inner circle costs more than an empty seat, and that math only becomes obvious after you've paid the price at least once - Silicon Canals

Selective relationship management involves careful curation of connections to optimize emotional and mental capital, recognizing that proximity impacts well-being.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
4 days ago

There's a specific kind of adult who apologizes for crying even when they're alone, and it isn't sensitivity, it's the residue of a childhood where emotion was something you were expected to clean up before anyone saw the mess - Silicon Canals

Adults who were invalidated in childhood often apologize for their emotions, reflecting deep-seated patterns of emotional suppression.
Relationships
fromHuffPost
6 days ago

13 Sex Questions You Probably Haven't Asked Your Partner - But Should

Open communication about sex enhances intimacy and pleasure in relationships.
Psychology
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Overcoming Problems of the Emotional System

Emotional rigidity leads to self-limiting behavior and misinterpretation of feelings, hindering personal growth and development.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
4 days ago

Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship Despite Your Efforts?

Couples often become too cautious in their efforts to improve relationships, leading to unresolved issues and a lack of genuine connection.
Psychology
fromSilicon Canals
6 days ago

Psychology suggests people who dislike surprises, even good ones, are running a system that values safety over delight - not because they don't want to feel joy but because joy that arrives without warning feels almost identical to danger in a body that was trained to treat the two as the same thing - Silicon Canals

Unexpected surprises can trigger a fight-or-flight response due to a nervous system trained to perceive unpredictability as a threat.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Don't Manifest More Pleasure. Do This Instead

Visualising "your best life" can boost mood and create a sense of hopefulness. That good feeling you get, and the boost in your mood, are nothing to sneeze at, but-and there is a but-feeling good is not the same as creating change. And this is where it can get tricky when you are applying it to a sex life that you actively want to change.
Miscellaneous
LGBT
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

I'm Having Great Sex With a Beautiful Woman. If Only She Knew What I Was Thinking About During It.

A person in a new stable relationship experiences intrusive sexual memories of a previous male partner, causing uncertainty about sexual orientation and presence during sex.
fromMail Online
2 months ago

The most bizarre responses to female climax - including CRYING

The researchers hope the findings will help to reassure women that their responses during orgasm are normal. 'While there have been case reports of women laughing, crying or having unusual physical symptoms during orgasm, this is the first study to characterize what these phenomena are, and when they are most likely to occur,' lead author Dr Lauren Streicher said. 'Women need to know that if they have uncontrollable peals of laughter every time they orgasm, and nothing was funny, they are not alone.'
Health
Science
fromwww.dw.com
2 months ago

Does this chemical really make you fall in love?

Oxytocin is a simple, ancient nine-amino-acid hormone that influences childbirth, social bonding, and trust, but it is not inherently social.
fromwww.independent.co.uk
2 months ago

Valentine's Day: What makes a good kiss? Here is the psychology behind it

From reproductive rights to climate change to Big Tech, The Independent is on the ground when the story is developing. Whether it's investigating the financials of Elon Musk's pro-Trump PAC or producing our latest documentary, 'The A Word', which shines a light on the American women fighting for reproductive rights, we know how important it is to parse out the facts from the messaging.
US politics
#sexual-desire
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 week ago

When Love Becomes a Question You Can't Stop Asking

Relationship OCD reflects growing anxiety around love and attachment, emphasizing the need to tolerate doubt to alleviate relationship-related anxiety.
Relationships
fromQueerty
3 weeks ago

Sexpert explains the science behind "just okay" oral & why BJs don't always end in climax - Queerty

Oral sex often doesn't lead to climax for men due to different sensations compared to penetration.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Is Making Love Different from Just Having Sex?

Making love differs from casual sex through patience, emotional intimacy, and temporal richness, involving slower, more tender interactions and deeper connection.
#sexual-communication
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

There's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.

A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

There's One Way I Can Achieve Orgasm. The Trouble Is That I Need My Boyfriend to Leave the Room to Do It.

A woman comfortable with not orgasming during partnered sex should not feel pressured to change this when her partner repeatedly raises the topic despite her clear boundaries.
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

The Real Science of Smell and Attraction

Unlike sight or sound, smell has a direct pathway to the amygdala and hippocampus-the regions involved in emotion and autobiographical memory. Because of this connection, memories triggered by scent are often more vivid and emotionally intense than those triggered by sight.
Psychology
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
1 month ago

I Really Need My Boyfriend to Go Down on Me. What He Does Instead Is Maddening.

Sexual incompatibility rooted in unresolved fear or insecurity requires honest communication and exploration of alternative ways to express intimacy and devotion beyond specific acts.
Psychology
fromMail Online
2 months ago

Revealed: What your sexual fantasies say about you

Frequent sexual fantasies associate with higher neuroticism and depression risk, while infrequent fantasies link to greater conscientiousness or agreeableness.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

Is Kissing Essential for Exciting Sex?

Passionate kissing ranges from light pecks to intense French kissing, serving as intimate emotional communication, yet many people avoid it despite its role in romantic relationships.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
1 month ago

What Puts a Woman in the Mood?

The mind is the primary sex organ for women, serving as the gatekeeper for physical intimacy, and emotional connection with a partner significantly increases sexual desire.
Relationships
fromPsychology Today
2 months ago

Can You Be Addicted to Love?

Relational patterns labeled "love addiction" reflect attachment-related needs, not a recognized psychiatric addiction, and require understanding and soothing of deep-seated needs.
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Just Told Me What She Thinks About While We Have Sex. It's So Much Worse Than I Thought.

At any point, any of your partners may have been thinking of someone (or even something) else to help themselves get over the edge. The idea of making someone orgasm with, to put it your way, just you is an illusion. People bring a lifetime of experience to the sex they have, including ways to help facilitate orgasm. Sex alone may not be enough to get your wife to come.
Relationships
Relationships
fromSlate Magazine
2 months ago

My Wife Can Get Me to the Finish Line in Many Ways. Except the One I Really Want.

Some men cannot reach orgasm from oral stimulation; trying temporary abstinence, prostate stimulation, or adjusting stimulation dynamics may help but results are not guaranteed.
fromwww.scientificamerican.com
2 months ago

How often do people fall passionately in love? The answer may be less than you think

On average, single adults in the U.S. report they have fallen in passionate love twice in their life so far, according to a new survey. And 14 percent of the 10,036 respondents said they had never fallen in passionate love at all. The results highlight the diversity of people's experiences with love, says the study's lead author Amanda Gesselman, a psychologist at Indiana University's Kinsey Institute. There's a lot more variation than we really know about, she says.
Relationships
fromSilicon Canals
2 months ago

Couples who cuddle while sleeping are far happier than those who don't - Silicon Canals

When I first read that couples who touch while sleeping report 94% relationship satisfaction compared to just 68% for those who don't, I nearly fell off my chair. Could something as simple as nighttime cuddling really make that much difference? After diving deep into the research and reflecting on my own relationship, I discovered that those quiet moments of physical closeness might be one of the most underrated predictors of relationship happiness.
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