"Being right is a victory for the ego. Being connected is a truth of the soul. We are always connected-all that fluctuates is our awareness of that reality. But in being right, we not only forget that truth, but we translate the pain of disconnection into the cost of our struggle. Of course things are hard-because the other side makes it that way. This is true whether it's our political enemy or viewing our partner as the enemy."
"This breakdown of connection between us looks a lot like the breakdown of connection I see between couples, where being right trumps being connected. Who exactly is winning in this? If you one-up your partner or political opponent and get a temporary victory, does it translate into some lasting good feeling or a healthy relationship? Simply put, would you rather be right or be happy?"
Current political and intimate conflicts mirror each other when being right takes precedence over connection. The pursuit of being right serves the ego and creates temporary victories that do not build lasting wellbeing or healthy relationships. Connection is presented as an ontological truth whose awareness fluctuates, not a contingent achievement. When people insist on being right they forget that shared connectedness and convert the pain of disconnection into blaming opponents. Repetitive talking points and entrenched justifications erode listening and prevent growth. Allowing uncertainty while maintaining love enables openness and deepening of relationships.
Read at Psychology Today
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