"A big one for me is the ability to let others be wrong. It's not up to any of us to tutor others in the ways of righteousness. That doesn't mean never challenging anyone, but rather not getting emotionally invested in changing their mind. This is especially relevant in our political climate, but also it's important for one's own peace."
"No matter how complex, bizarre and improbable the situation you are in, somebody exists whose job is to help people in situations like yours. The problem that you think you have can be reduced to the problem of finding this person. Doing things to make yourself happy brings a shallow and short-lived happiness that needs frequent repetition. Doing things that make other people happy brings deeper satisfaction. However, trying to make yourself happy by making other people happy falls into the first category."
"Don't think you're the girl who can fix him. Nobody changes unless they want to. And your life won't change unless you make it happen. Always have the duvet that is one size bigger than the mattress. A lesson I learned from my father, when the only possible toilet was in a grand hotel. We're going to walk in like we're staying there, like we own the place. It worked when I was nine, and has often been effective since."
Let others be wrong without becoming emotionally invested in changing their minds to preserve personal peace. Do not try to fix others; people change only when they want to. Personal life change requires active effort by the individual. Seek out professionals whose job is to help with specific complex problems. Prioritize time with people who enhance your well-being. Making others happy yields deeper satisfaction than pursuing shallow self-directed pleasures, though attempting to secure personal happiness by pleasing others can be hollow. Adopt small practical comforts and carry confident behaviour into unfamiliar situations.
Read at www.theguardian.com
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