At 34 and firmly deciding against parenthood, the author reflects on the societal pressure and judgment faced from others regarding their childless choice. Friends, strangers, and even family often express disbelief or anxiety about this decision. The author finds peace in this choice but notices that it generates discomfort for many around them. A peaceful moment with nature, watching birds, serves as a metaphor for the complexities of parenting versus the independent life the author has chosen. Ultimately, the article examines societal expectations regarding parenthood and the reactions to those choosing otherwise.
"Making my decision to be childless caused me no stress. But it does, for some reason, cause stress to others."
"I have heard most of them [comments about not wanting children], from the infuriatingly condescending 'don't worry, you will one day!' to the vaguely hostile 'so you don't like children?'"}],
"Parenthood is a beautiful, brutal entrance into a new way of living, slicing open the way things were, ushering in the joys and challenges of raising children."
"But a dizzying number of people ask me about my plans for children, from strangers to friends."
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