The article explores the challenges faced by both genders, emphasizing the importance of supporting men who deal with abuse and mental health issues. However, it criticizes how discussions often shift blame onto women instead of addressing systemic inequalities. It underscores how traditional school environments favor boys through leniency, while girls must conform to strict behaviors. Personal experiences highlight the struggles of those with ADHD, particularly women whose needs are often overlooked, advocating for better understanding and support from educators and counselors in addressing these issues.
I'm sorry. I don't want to sound like an asshole: It's true that help organizations for men are important. Many men also suffer from abusive partners, mental health issues, feel left behind in school, and just...lost in society. But I also kinda hate, how these questions even exist. Or worse: How every time the discussion arises, it's derailed to the opposite: Not, 'look what women do,' but 'look how women are at fault.'
It's also annoying. Not just because of the ignorance towards women's invisible labor, but also women's conditioning as a whole. Just take school. How often did you hear 'young boys are left behind academically?' Yes. It's true: boys don't do as well as girls. Girls get higher grades, are more likely into college, and receive better reviews. So, how to help them? At best, you get ideas like "more P.E.," "more breaks," and "more hands-on approaches." And yeah, those are all good ideas.
If boys are rowdy, it's 'boys will be boys.' Girls are taught to stick together & help each for survival ('Girl Code'). Boys are taught 'two men can be friends for 20 years without knowing each other's name.' I'm an ADHD woman, and too many times, I was expected to 'babysit' other autistic boys/men. Every time, the expectation came like a favor: 'Oh, but you're so competent.' And it's true - I am. But that's not because I was simply 'born that way.'
In fact, I struggled severely. I had learning disabilities, severe bullying, neglect...it was a fucking boot camp. Y'know how I got better? A female English teacher advocated for me to get diagnosed with autism, because she knew that autism in women gets overlooked. A female counselor helped me get therapy for depression.
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