""[It's] someone willing to turn a blind eye to a lap dance or a brief affair after years of marriage. They're able to focus on all the ways their spouse demonstrates their commitment and shows their love. And all of those other ways compensate or make the cheating that might be happening tolerable. These people aren't fools or dupes. They're not to be pitied - they know what they signed up for and long ago made peace with what they got. They're willing to put up with it - a certain amount of it - reconciled to it, willing to tolerate it. They are, in a word, tolyamorous.""
""Tolyamory is a relationship style where one or both members of a socially monogamous couple turn a blind eye to the sex their partner is having - or has had - with someone else, in order to maintain the relationship. One or both of them are tolerating, or putting up with, their partner's non-monogamous behavior, but not openly discussing it.""
Tolyamory, a term coined by Dan Savage, describes a relationship dynamic where one or both partners tolerate outside romantic or sexual contacts without prior discussion. This differs from polyamory, which involves mutual consent. Tolyamorous individuals may overlook infidelity or brief affairs, focusing instead on their partner's commitment and love. They accept the situation, understanding the dynamics of their relationship, and choose to maintain it despite the challenges posed by non-monogamous behavior.
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