A 30-year-old gay man asked how to date without feeling embarrassed about earnings and financial stability. He described being in a dead-end job, not poor but not comfortable, and feeling his situation harms his confidence when dating men who are more successful. He also noted a stereotype that gay men are financially successful and network savvy, which he does not feel he meets. He planned to return to school to improve his career. Many responses encouraged him not to be ashamed, arguing that judgment from others is a reason to avoid those partners. Others emphasized that there are many people willing to date on a budget.
"For guys who aren't very successful/making above six figures, how do you navigate dating and not feeling embarrassed or ashamed?"
"As a 30yo gay guy who is still trying to gain some sort of financial stability and a proper career, I often feel ashamed of my situation and embarrassed to let other men know my financial reality. I'm not poor, but I'm not comfortable either. Pretty much stuck in a dead-end job, and it's eating at my ego/confidence, especially with dating men who are relatively successful or even well off."
"It's also embarrassing because the stereotype for gay men is being financially successful and network savvy, which I'm not either (at least not yet)."
"You need to live your life for yourself and not others. If other guys are judging you for your financial situation, why would you want them in your life at all?"
Read at Queerty
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