The article discusses how individuals with schizoid personality disorder struggle with relationships, feeling unsafe and fearing intimacy. It presents the 'schizoid dilemma,' where they must navigate the need for social contact against the risk of being trapped in abusive dynamics. The piece explains how growing up in an oppressive environment limits one's relational choices, often leading to existential crises and isolation. It further highlights the concept of whole object relations, which is crucial for developing healthy interpersonal relationships, and outlines how missing these relations in childhood impacts adult relationships.
When you grow up in an oppressive and abusive home situation where you are treated as a thing and not a person with rights and feelings, you are likely to believe that you have only two choices: either you allow yourself to be dominated as the price of being in the relationship or you leave, maintain your independence, and spend your life alone.
Klein describes this as having to choose between a 'master/slave' relationship or risk total isolation and existential dread.
Whole object relations refers to the capacity to see oneself and other people in a realistic, integrated, and stable way that contains both liked and disliked aspects of the person.
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