"In any given relationship or group, there is always one person who makes things happen. Everyone says "hey, we should get together!" but this person finds a date and makes the restaurant reservation. After a family meet-up in a park, everyone says "we should do this again!" but this person suggests meeting next Saturday at the children's museum at 10 a.m. since the forecast calls for rain."
"You organize get-togethers with your friends all the time. That's why you have wonderful things going on in your life! The only fly in the ointment is that sometimes you might wonder why other people don't do as much or even any of the planning. You might wonder if they're as invested in the friendship as you are. When you like people, you extend invitations for specific times."
One person in many relationships naturally takes on scheduling and organizing roles, finding dates and making reservations. That person often arranges follow-up meet-ups and adapts plans based on circumstances like weather. Organizers may wonder why others do not share planning duties and may question their friends' level of investment. Such doubts can lead organizers to hold back invitations out of concern for misjudging others. Recognizing planning as a particular gift and accepting that others contribute different strengths allows organizers to feel validated and enjoy friendships more fully. Appreciation for varied contributions reduces frustration and increases connection.
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