""Chalant" isn't really an official word. You won't find it listed in the thesaurus as the opposite of nonchalant-just like "theless" won't be listed as the antonym of nonetheless. Nonetheless, people have been using words like "chalant" and "chalance" on social media and dating apps to describe an approach to dating that's the opposite of the nonchalance that's been fostered by some traditional dating advice and recent common dating situations like, well, situationships."
"Yep, you may have heard the age-old paradoxical advice to "play it cool" and act indifferent when you are actually romantically interested in someone. For example, there's that standard "Three-day rule" that says you should wait three days to contact a person following a first date to avoid appearing too eager or-gasp-desperate. The thought is that by not showing more enthusiasm, you are portraying yourself as high value-that you have options, so you don't really need the other person."
Chalant isn't an official word but is used in dating to signify the opposite of nonchalant. People use 'chalant' and 'chalance' on social media and dating apps to describe an all-in, expressive approach to dating. Traditional dating advice has encouraged acting nonchalant, including rules like waiting three days after a first date to avoid appearing eager. Nonchalant behavior aims to signal high value by appearing indifferent. That approach can spur pursuit by people who value challenges. Chalance emphasizes frankness, visible enthusiasm, and being more oneself to more readily find a compatible match.
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