"Think about what you and your partner say to each other during a typical disagreement. If you're frustrated, you might unleash an onslaught of negativity. "You did this" and "you did that" can quickly lead to unnecessarily rude remarks. If you aren't the best at arguing in a healthy way, it can be easy to say things you don't mean."
"One way to keep yourselves in check is with the "2:1 ratio," a relationship hack that's going viral on social media. It's the idea that for every negative comment you say to a partner, you need to follow it up with at least two positive ones. The goal? To maintain a sense of trust and connection within your relationship, says Meredith Van Ness, LCSW, a licensed psychotherapist and owner of Meredith Van Ness Therapy and Coaching."
Apply a 2:1 ratio in conflicts by following each negative comment with at least two sincere positive remarks. This approach reduces tension, prevents escalation into personal attacks, and reminds partners of mutual commitment and teamwork. Sandwiching affirmations or appreciation around criticism restores balance and preserves a sense of safety and trust. The method does not excuse insults; partners should still avoid unloading many frustrations at once. Practicing the ratio during heated moments or afterward can repair harm and keep communication open. Consistently pairing criticism with positive feedback reduces resentment and supports healthier long-term conflict resolution.
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