"According to the viral 'bird theory' on TikTok, a sweet and loving partner will show some interest and start asking questions about the seemingly mundane statement. On the flip side, TikTok users think it's very telling if your partner brushes off your bird comments and moves on with their day. On the app, couples are testing out the 'bird theory' and the results are a hilarious mixed bag, but it's also starting a conversation about healthy relationships."
"According to Leigh Norén, MSc, a sex and relationship therapist, the bird theory is an example of a "bid for attention," or a small attempt to connect with your partner. It's something couples do all day long without even realizing it, like when you point out a pretty sunset or your partner mentions they had an amazing sandwich for lunch. Even though these moments are mundane, it feels good when you receive a tiny spark of acknowledgement."
The bird theory proposes that small, everyday comments function as bids for attention, and a partner's response reveals emotional attunement and relationship health. On TikTok, couples test the theory by mentioning a mundane observation — like seeing a bird — and noting whether partners show interest or ignore it. Affirming responses such as follow-up questions or simple excitement indicate connection; dismissive reactions suggest disengagement. Therapist Leigh Norén identifies such bids as routine opportunities for connection, both verbal and nonverbal, that accumulate to shape relationship satisfaction. Consistent acknowledgment of small bids reinforces intimacy and signals an invested partner.
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