This is how we do it: We schedule sex ahead being organised has reaped massive dividends'

"The key has always been planning; 99 times out of 100, we'll agree to have sex a day or two in advance, a pattern we established even before we got married. It means we're never in the awkward position of trying to gauge whether the other person is in the mood. We've perfected our sexual routine now down to the shower we always have together beforehand."

"On the days when I know we're going to have sex, it gives me something to look forward to from the moment I wake up and having a few hours in the evening that are completely blocked out for physical pleasure with no technology or distractions is so good for our mental health."

"Occasionally, if we're away for the night Mia will offer up a quickie, but it's rarely as good as prearranged sex at home, where we've got all our creature comforts (sex toys and weed), and can really take our time."

A couple in a nearly three-decade relationship maintains sexual frequency of approximately 2.5 times weekly by planning encounters one to two days in advance. This scheduling approach, established before marriage, eliminates awkwardness about gauging mutual interest and prevents intimacy from being neglected. The couple has developed a consistent pre-sex routine including shared showers and uses dedicated evening time without technology or distractions. While spontaneity occasionally occurs during trips, the couple finds prearranged sex superior due to comfort, access to preferred items, and ability to take time. The structured approach provides psychological benefits through anticipation and mental health advantages from focused physical connection.

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