The article recounts the author's journey from a strict evangelical upbringing that instilled shame and fear about sexuality to discovering empowerment and agency in her sexual life. Despite waiting until marriage to have penetrative sex due to cultural pressures, she found herself indifferent towards sex in marriage, needing to redefine her approach when her husband Ben expressed concerns. By taking initiative in their sexual experiences, she felt liberated and gained control over her sexuality, reflecting on the emotional turmoil and conflict caused by her earlier beliefs.
I grew up in an evangelical Christian community and there was a huge emphasis placed on saving sex until marriage. From a young age, I believed I had to save this precious part of myself if I wanted to remain pure.
All of a sudden, this anger stirred up in me because I'd grown up believing that, as a woman, my body was not my own. When I spoke to Ben, we decided that, for a period of time, only I would initiate sex.
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