This Coming Year, Come Home to Yourself

"What you do need, what we all need, is to come home to yourself, to your body, to your actual desires. To that moment in the middle of the day when you feel a low hum in your hips and remember you have a body that likes to be touched, when your breath stutters because you imagined someone's mouth where you want it most."

"Your body has opinions, she remembers pleasure. She remembers warmth. She remembers being touched, like it mattered. She remembers desire, even if lately your libido has been lingering in the shadows, watching, waiting, wanting to be invited back with a slower kind of closeness. This year, instead of trying to reinvent yourself, try something wildly radical: enjoy being yourself, authentically and unapologetically. Preferably in your actual skin, with the lights on, not safely off."

Reinvention is unnecessary; the current self is complex, sensual, humorous, sometimes feral, often brilliant, and worthy of love. The body stores memories of pleasure, warmth, touch, and desire that deserve attention and invitation back, even if libido has receded. Reconnecting means noticing bodily cues—hip hums, breath catches, and the heat of intentional looks—and allowing touch and curiosity to guide intimacy rather than performance or strategy. Authentic self-enjoyment includes staying present in one's skin, keeping lights on, and resisting shrinking or smoothing edges to accommodate others. A practical resolution is to show up unapologetically as oneself.

Read at Psychology Today