"This goes beyond sexuality, in situations such as new parenthood or taking on mentorship roles, but I'll stay in my lane. You enjoyed yourself. You had fun. Consider what qualms or drawbacks might be underneath the fact that your role in the encounter was at odds with your concept of your identity. If there aren't any, I'd say proceed. If there are, weigh them."
"Not only are identities often more flexible or prone to growth, expansion, or change than we usually speak of them as, but sexual games of dominance and submission are usually just that- games. Roles we take on. Scenarios we agree to play out. Dominating this man, or anyone, in no way requires you to change your behavior outside of those moments."
Unexpected sexual roles can reveal new aspects of desire and identity. Enjoyment, curiosity, and mutual consent justify exploring a dominant role experimentally. Sexual identities are often flexible and can expand without forcing permanent change to nonsexual behavior. Dominance and submission commonly function as negotiated games or scenarios rather than fixed character traits. Evaluate any qualms or drawbacks, communicate boundaries and preferences with the partner, and proceed only if emotional safety and autonomy feel intact. Gradual, consensual exploration allows for reflection and adjustment while preserving core values and outside-of-bed behavior.
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