"According to decades of research by psychologist John Gottman, a whopping 69% of relationship conflicts are 'unresolvable.' This means that over two-thirds of the problems in relationships are due to irreconcilable differences in personality, parenting styles, political beliefs, core values, and patterns of behaviors that are likely to change around the same time the cows come home."
"The problem isn't the differences themselves. It's how you react to them, and what they trigger in you- anger, frustration, judgement, self-righteousness, moral superiority, and fear for your relationship."
"What's required, says Gottman in What Makes Love Last, is an attempt to understand and empathize with one another's differences, not try to dicker or debate them into oblivion."
Research indicates that 69% of relationship conflicts stem from unresolvable differences in personality, parenting styles, and core values. These differences, such as introversion versus extroversion or spending habits, cannot be solved but must be managed. Initially, opposites attract, creating excitement and balance in relationships. However, as infatuation fades, these differences can lead to frustration and conflict. Understanding and empathizing with each other's differences is essential for relationship longevity, rather than attempting to resolve them through debate.
Read at Psychology Today
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