"He said, "We have. I've not been inside you, but we've done stuff." He even tried to lie to me and said that we've given each other blowjobs. I said, "Correction, I gave YOU a blowjob." His mouth hasn't been anywhere near that part of my body. I know what you might be thinking, and this man is not asexual. (Unless he's been lying to me about that, too.)"
"We agreed to be ethically non-monogamous, but that we would always be honest with each other about whether we're hooking up with anyone else, so I'd hate to think that he's getting sex from somewhere else and lying to me about it. I genuinely don't think that's the case, as he doesn't seem like an actively deceitful person. Then again, I have only known him for a month."
"In fact, now that I'm thinking about it, I haven't felt that amount of passion from him since that first night. We've only been seeing each other for a little under a month. We should be doing it like bunnies. When I started seeing Justin, it felt like he was too good to be true, and now I feel like cracks are starting to show."
Two men have been seeing each other for about a month. They spent the first night together and engaged in oral sex and mutual manual stimulation but not penetrative sex. Since that night there has been little to no sexual contact despite attempts by one partner. One partner misrepresented their sexual history and downplayed the lack of reciprocity. They agreed to ethical non-monogamy with honesty about outside partners, raising concerns about possible undisclosed sexual activity. One partner doubts deceit but notices a clear drop in passion compared to the first encounter. The concerned partner seeks clarity and advice.
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