"I close my eyes and picture a big brunch table with my parents, my sister, and my closest friends. The people who really know me. Then I imagine this new person sitting there. What would they talk about? Do they relax into the room or do they perform? Do they make the table feel easier or do I feel like I'm managing the vibe?"
"As the saying goes, "people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime." But when you first meet them, it isn't always easy to tell which category they'll ultimately fall into. Will they be a fun work friend? A fling? Or someone you'll be laughing with when you're 80 years old?"
""People are tired of only talking about red flags," she tells Bustle. "This is more about spotting green flags, the stuff that actually makes relationships sustainable.""
The brunch table theory asks one to imagine a familiar family-and-friends brunch and picture a new person at the table. Observers note whether the person relaxes into the room, performs for attention, makes the group feel easier, or requires active vibe management. The approach treats brunch as a relaxed barometer for long-term relationship fit and prioritizes green flags such as small, practical expressions of care and shared alignment. The method functions as a quick gut check rather than an exclusivity test and encourages spotting sustainable traits instead of focusing only on red flags.
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