Should I Stay or Should I Go? When Is the Right Time to Seek Divorce
Briefly

Common contributors to divorce include inability to communicate, high levels of conflict, loneliness within the relationship, and hard reasons such as abuse, addiction, and infidelity. Soft reasons like "we just grew apart" are frequently reported as the cause of separation. Perceived happiness and beliefs about romantic love—being "in love" versus a more general love and whether love and happiness require work—influence attitudes toward divorce. Most people tend to blame their spouse for the divorce. Relationship fluctuations and reduced romantic intensity are common, and communication skills can bridge distance and improve long-term relationship health.
There are several commonly reported contributors to divorce. Research reported in the - not being able to talk to each other, high levels of conflict and arguing, feeling lonely within the relationship - and '"hard" reasons such as abuse, addiction and infidelity. Despite what you may think, the big dealbreaker issues are not the most common causes. All too often the couples report a variation of the soft theme of "we just grew apart".
Another study looked at the role of perceived happiness and beliefs about romantic love in the divorce decision making Journal of Divorce and Remarriage distinguishes between "soft" reasons process. The ephemeral concept of being "in love" versus feeling more general love for a partner influences respondents' attitudes toward the possibility of divorce in the future, as does whether a person believes it is important to work at both love and happiness within a relationship.
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