"Talking about sex can be embarrassing and awkward. Of course, having sex can be embarrassing and awkward. Our conscious minds might feel these feelings of embarrassment and awkwardness and want to avoid discussing them, while at the same time, our biological urges still have our subconscious minds intensely focused on sex. The start of the work to repair relationships with conflict in the area of sex is to break the ice and make it OK to talk about."
"I explain that sex is often a big part of being in a relationship, and it's something we should probably discuss. Learning to be comfortable talking about sex in couples therapy should lead to learning to be comfortable talking about sex outside of couples therapy, which will hopefully lead to a more satisfying and meaningful sex life. The most awkward part of this discussion is making it OK to say words like "blow job" or "vaginal orgasm.""
Sex is a frequent and often avoided factor in decisions to seek couples therapy. Talking about sex can cause embarrassment while biological urges keep it centrally important. Repair begins by breaking the ice and making sex OK to talk about. Therapists often prompt the conversation to normalize explicit words and to encourage partners to attach 'I would like' or 'I don't enjoy' to sexual terms. Comfort in discussing sex in therapy can generalize to everyday life and lead to a more satisfying sex life. Anything that makes a partner feel loved, thought of, and supported can develop feelings of intimacy.
Read at Psychology Today
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