"My wife and I have been at odds over something since we've been together. She gets especially horny during her period and wants sex. The idea of doing it while she has that going on sickens me. With the exceptions of when she was pregnant, every month it's been the same thing when that week rolls around: the demands, my refusals, and the accusations that I'm "not a real man." How can I get through to her that this is off the table for me once and for all? -Counting the Days Until Menopause"
"Are there other aspects of the relationship where his character is being denigrated? Are there other points of conflict where she resorts to that level of language? That's a horrible thing to say to a person. Is this something that only the wife is doing? Is there some reason that she can't get a dildo and take care of this herself? Is she just refusing to do it, or is our letter writer, for some reason, saying sex can only happen with him?"
A married couple repeatedly clashes over sexual activity during menstruation. The husband finds sex during his wife's period repulsive and consistently refuses. The wife becomes highly sexual during menstruation and pressures him, sometimes accusing him of "not a real man." Accusations raised concerns about potential emotional abuse and character denigration. Questions emerged about whether insults are isolated or part of a pattern and whether alternatives like sex toys or self-pleasure are being rejected. The husband's phrasing is harsh, yet personal sexual boundaries are valid. Recommendations include separating firm boundaries from coercion and considering counseling if abusive incidents persist.
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