My Wife and I Found a Wild Way to Include a Friend in Our Sex Life. But It Might Be Time for a Reality Check.

"Your situation is so mired in mixed signals they're even embedded in your telling of it to me, an innocent bystander. How can you have a "fantastic" sexual experience that is lacking in physical chemistry? That's like taking a bath without getting wet. Regardless, continuing to flirt with someone that you aren't interested in having sex with again is essentially inviting annoyance and awkwardness."

"It seems quite likely that your spurned third will at some point request a repeat that you will have to turn down, probably in confusing terms ("It was fantastic! But nah ... "). I don't actually see the boundary that you're asking about, so I advise you to erect one that is more substantial. That said, if he's aware and on board with the fact that you're transitioning what was briefly a physical sexual relationship into a phone-based one,"

A couple had a threesome with a mutual friend that felt 'fantastic' but lacked physical chemistry, so they do not want to repeat it. The couple maintains a private porn channel with the friend, sharing GIFs, photos, and live video chats; the friend enjoys voyeurism while the couple enjoys exhibitionism. The virtual interaction serves as foreplay and sexual satisfaction for the couple. Continued flirting without clear limits sends mixed signals and risks creating annoyance or awkwardness if the friend requests another in-person encounter. A clearer, more substantial boundary or explicit agreement that the relationship is phone-based with no expectations reduces confusion and harm.

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