"My sister "Renata" is getting married in the spring. I bake cakes professionally, and she and our parents are expecting me to make her wedding cake free of charge. But the cake Renata wants is one that typically runs just over $1,000. I can't afford to simply give it away. I told them I would be willing to charge $450 for it and have it be my wedding gift to her."
"Your sister should of course not have assumed you'd provide the cake for free. (I'm guessing it never crossed her mind that she'd have to pay for a cake given that there's a professional baker in the family. That was very foolish-and entitled-of her.) But I hope you explained fully why you can't do this. That is, I hope you didn't say, flatly, "That's too expensive a cake for me to give away," and leave it at that."
A professional baker is expected by her sister Renata and their parents to provide a wedding cake free of charge. The requested cake normally costs just over $1,000, and the baker offered to charge $450 as a wedding gift. Renata reacted angrily and family members pressured the baker, with some relatives siding with Renata and attempting to guilt the baker. The baker suggested a less costly cake but was rebuffed and was threatened with exclusion from the wedding. The baker must weigh absorbing a significant financial loss against protecting personal boundaries and long-term family relationships.
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