My Husband Put My Hand Under the Table at Dinner. What I Felt Was Sickening.

"When he put my hand down there, I felt his hard-on, which he had exposed. He then asked me to give him a hand job (fortunately the tablecloth obstructed the view). I wanted to avoid getting caught, so I complied and got him off quickly. When we got to the car he said it was the most thrilling sexual experience he's had in ages and wants to do it again."

"Just make sure you can articulate exactly why you want to avoid this situation moving forward. "It makes me uncomfortable to engage in public sexual behavior, which could lead to negative consequences," for example, is more than justified rationale. "It makes me uncomfortable," is more than justified rationale, period, but it does help to have an explanation to share with one's partner so that you can be fully understood and so that the conversation about this doesn't become an ongoing one,"

Recognize that refusing is reasonable and identify specific reasons for avoiding repeated public sexual behavior. Articulate those reasons clearly to the partner, for example: "It makes me uncomfortable to engage in public sexual behavior, which could lead to negative consequences." Expressing discomfort alone is sufficient, but offering an explanation can prevent ongoing pressure. Take time to determine precisely what felt wrong, then communicate the limits and refuse participation in future similar situations. If the partner continues to press, reinforce the boundary and decline to comply.

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