"My husband and I are in our 60s. We have been married for 40 years, some of it happily, some not so much. Our children are grown up and gone, and we have recently retired. Some of our tensions over the years have been around my husband's tendency to be undermining and belittling. He claims not to understand why I might find certain things upsetting, yet refuses to engage with couples counselling (apparently I would tell lies)."
"I found it odd that she couldn't confide in her partner or friends, but my husband exploded and we had one of our worst, most vicious arguments in years. He accused me of not wanting him to have friends (the opposite is true) and threw up the fact that I have platonic male friends; true, but my male friends and I go back 30-plus years and we don't meet one-to-one. I have never felt a twinge of jealousy before in our 40 years together,"
A couple in their 60s have been married 40 years with periods of happiness and difficulty. Persistent tensions arise from the husband's undermining and belittling behavior, his refusal to attend couples counselling, and his dislike of the wife's friends and siblings. The husband met an ex-colleague for lunch and arranged further contact, which triggered a severe argument in which he accused the wife of opposing his friendships and highlighted her platonic male friends. The wife now feels unexpected jealousy and upset because he does not acknowledge her concerns or offer reassurance. The core issue is emotional unresponsiveness and lack of trust.
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