After nearly 51 years of marriage, Barry and his partner attribute their relationship's success to key agreements that foster independence and intimacy. They emphasize the importance of giving each other ample space, spending about four weeks apart each year. Their motto encapsulates their dynamic: 'intimacy and independence.' They also avoid keeping score in daily tasks, focusing instead on mutual support without expectation. Their experience suggests that flexibility in routines can rejuvenate their connection, allowing for personal pursuits while maintaining a strong bond as partners.
The initial chapter in our marriage was rough, but we did ultimately succeed, and we attribute our success partly to the three ground rules we developed over time.
Our motto is 'intimacy and independence.' We enjoy spending time both together and apart, so we give each other a lot of freedom, spending about four weeks a year on our own.
The disruption in our marriage routine feels liberating, since all our usual patterns loosen up - sleeping, eating, and socializing differently.
We can't use a choice we made as a bargaining chip. We can wash the dishes or not wash the dishes, but if we choose to do them, it isn't a matter of trading favors.
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