"When I am with said people, we are both fully enjoying ourselves, but it is impossible for me to climax. At first, I thought maybe it was just nerves or my partner didn't have a technique that matched my desires (not a problem, that's where communication comes in!), but even after we part, neither my husband nor I can get me to climax."
"It's absolutely possible that you're overstimulated by how hot your swinging encounters are, and unable to climax because of that. Sometimes a similar thing happens to me, after several orgasms, and I've found having my vulva slapped hard-think sharp pain, right on the clitoris-can be the right kind of stimulation to get me over the precipice again. If this isn't already a part of your sexual repertoire, I think it's worth a try."
An early-30s woman and her husband opened their marriage to swinging and friends-with-benefits, and she enjoys encounters but cannot climax with new partners. She and her husband normally experience orgasms together, but she remains stuck at a plateau despite communication and skill. Overstimulation from highly arousing partners may prevent climax. A sharp, hard slap to the vulva or clitoris at peak arousal can sometimes trigger release, because pain sensations change with arousal levels. Reluctance to fully let go with unfamiliar partners may also inhibit orgasm, suggesting emotional comfort and experimentation with sensations could help.
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