"I had a pretty serious boyfriend in my mid-20s-we even lived together for about a year and a half. Our breakup was messy-it was his doing, a total surprise, and it truly broke me at the time. Our friends ended up taking sides, and it blew up into a whole thing. We had a clean break-we never spoke again after he left our place and packed his things."
"On principle, I don't see a huge problem in boning an ex with whom you have become reacquainted. This is especially so if you are experienced with hook-ups and can easily draw a line between purely recreational sex and sex that may lead to a connection that is decidedly more intense. If you're collecting bodies, it might as well be a body that you know fits well with yours."
A woman described a year-and-a-half cohabiting relationship that ended in a surprise, messy breakup and a clean break thereafter. She reports feeling healed, having explored sex and relationships widely, and currently being single. The ex has returned to her city and brief social contact prompted temptation to pursue a hookup despite no interest in rekindling a relationship. The advice says casual sex with an ex can be acceptable when both parties can clearly separate recreational sex from emotional connection. Experience with hookups and honest self-knowledge about emotional limits are emphasized as safeguards.
Read at Slate Magazine
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