"When we first got together, people immediately assumed the reason we were a couple was because my husband had a fat fetish, which is extremely narrow-minded. We still get comments like: 'It must be hard knowing that someone is with you because of your size' or 'Is your husband a feeder?' or 'He wouldn't love you if you lost weight.'"
"It's the same as someone having a preference for people with a certain hair color; it's a physical attribute of someone ― it's normal! I think it boils down to the fact that there is a stigma associated with fat people. We're perceived by some as sub-par, or a lesser individual than others."
"The truth is, just like in any relationship, we make compromises. When we fly together, Tony always takes the middle seat so I'm able to be comfortable and not be judged by people around me. If there are weight limits, we'll occasionally do separate activities and then come together to share those experiences."
People in mixed-weight relationships frequently receive unsolicited, stigmatizing comments that imply fetishization, conditional love, or feeder dynamics. Partners report narrow-minded assumptions that attraction to larger bodies cannot be genuine, reflecting objectification and societal bias. Individuals compare physical attraction to preferences like hair color to emphasize that attraction is innate. Couples negotiate practical compromises, such as seating arrangements on planes or separate participation when weight limits apply, to preserve comfort and dignity. Stigma leads to feelings of being perceived as lesser, and partners assert autonomy against judgment and stereotypes.
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