"If you're a divorced woman who's dating you already know that breadcrumbing is more common than men holding fish in their profile pictures and who write that he "runs of sarcasm." If the term is new to you, I'm talking about a grown man who texts just enough to try and keep women guessing and confused and wondering what his intentions are."
"The thing is, I know what his intentions are. To keep me guessing and confused as he gets a little bit of attention. At this point it's the official language of middle-aged men. When I started recognizing this pattern from mediocre men who were cargo pants and are pretty good about sending "good morning, beautiful" texts, I kept giving them chances."
"I'd respond, then they'd disappear for weeks. I thought maybe they were going through a hard time or were afraid of rejection or just really busy. Because why on earth would someone keep sending me texts wanting to know what I was doing and telling me how attractive I was if they weren't interested?"
"For a while there I thought it was me. That there must be something about me that screamed, "Please text me because I'm lost without you. I don't care if I respond and you don't say anything for a week then pop back in to say you miss me. I'll take it!""
A divorced woman receives a message from a man who has been sending intermittent texts. The behavior is described as breadcrumbing, where a man texts just enough to keep a woman confused about his intentions. The pattern is framed as common among divorced or middle-aged men. The woman notes that she recognized the same cycle from other men who sent flattering messages, then disappeared for weeks. She initially gave them chances, assuming they might be busy or dealing with personal issues. She later questions whether the behavior is about attention-seeking rather than genuine interest, and considers that she may have been misreading the pattern.
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